Quotes from Richard Templar

In order to love people usefully you need to be focused on them and not yourself.

Try to see the past as a room separate from the one you live in now. You can go in there, but you don't live there anymore.

we all need reassurance and encouragement. We're human, and that's how we work

Everyone needs a superhero to champion them now and again, to rush to their aid when there's a fierce dragon approaching, a massive army attacking or a scary catacomb to navigate

If it's dead, don't go digging it up every five minutes to check if there's a pulse. It's dead; walk away.

Somewhere out there is someone who wants exactly the kind of person you are, complete with all the flaws and failings you come with.

you would be surprised how many people seriously limit their dreams. They're your dreams for heaven's sake. There should be no limit to them. Plans have to be realistic; dreams don't.

We do learn from experience and may not make the same mistakes again, but there is a whole new pickle jar of fresh ones just lying in wait for us to trip up and fall into. The secret is to accept this and not to beat yourself up when you do make new ones.

Live here, live now, live in this moment.

efficiency is doing the job right, effectiveness is doing the right job.

WISDOM ISN'T ABOUT NOT MAKING MISTAKES BUT ABOUT LEARNING TO ESCAPE AFTERWARD WITH OUR DIGNITY AND SANITY INTACT.

I spent every spare second available - evenings, weekends, lunch breaks - studying everything I could that would help me. But I told no one.

PLANS HAVE TO BE REALISTIC; DREAMS DON'T

The best thing is that if you get a lot of mistakes over and done with early on in your life, there will be less to learn the hard way later on. And that's what youth is all about, a chance to make all the mistakes you can and get them out of the way

The better you understand the beliefs, actions, desires, and wants of others, the more likely you are to make the right response, alter your own thinking where necessary and generally be successful.

This has to be a Rule because there can be no choice here. We have to accept that we are the way we are—the result of everything that has happened. It all just is.

Wisdom isn't about not making mistakes, but about learning to escape afterwards with our dignity and sanity intact.

Rule 5. Know What Counts and What Doesn't

IF YOU DON'T PLAN YOUR PLAN, IT WILL REMAIN A DREAM

The really good parents I've encountered, on the other hand, expect their children to be noisy, messy, bouncy, squabble, whingy and covered in mud.

The important thing is to recognize that when they want to do something on their own, it's not a rejection of you, it's simply an affirmation of who they are. It's their way of touching base and staying happy and if you don't let them do it, you'll lose the person you love.

If you want to, you can let go of any feelings of resentment, of regret, of anger. You can accept that you are a fabulous human being because of all the bad things that have happened to you, not in spite of them. What is done is done, and you need to just get on with your life.

If you give someone glowing praise for every little achievement, you've devalued the currency.

So do yourself a favour. Go away and hide somewhere while you lick your wounds. Enjoy your friends and your family, and wait until you've recovered a bit before you start looking for a new partner. And when you do, try to pick someone whose scars are relatively well-healed too – because of course this works the other way round as well. That way you can both see each other as you really are, and start your relationship the way you want to continue it.