Quotes from Dianna Anderson

Never make choices simply because someone told you what is right. Know yourself, know your situation, know God for yourself, and decide what is right for your life.

If you take one lesson and one lesson only from this book, I want it to be this: God doesn't function in a currency of shame. Shame isn't from God, it isn't of God, and it isn't something Christians should engage in. Shame is not nor will it ever be a useful response to a person's experience of the world, especially when it comes to sexual experiences.

Whoever you are, you are loved by a God who finds you beautiful and wants you to be fulfilled in life. Be a safe space for yourself first; then you can learn to be a safe space for others.

A woman who 'acts like a man' - who is bold and assertive, and refuses to defer to male authority - is threatening to a system that makes women responsible for men's feelings.

Shame based on sexual status, whether it is because of lots of sexual activity or none at all, is wrong. All

Shame based on sexual status, whether it is because of lots of sexual activity or none at all, is wrong.

The watershed of the sexual revolution was when women started to become individuals who claimed they were different in no essential way from men.

This is the freedom of the gospel—that we are free to be whom God made us to be, not confined to a box of aggressive masculinity or demure femininity.

evangelicalism instills a "fix-it" attitude into theories about marriage, about sex lives, about everything involving sexual identity. We need to remove ourselves from this mindset—people are not things to be fixed. Similarly,

In evangelical-speak, this is meeting people where they are. But I would add the following caveat: we must meet people where they are without a desire to change them into our image of what they should be.

Contrary to popular evangelical belief, feeling anger is not a sin—you're allowed to feel angry. You should feel angry. Being outraged at mistreatment is normal and even good. How

The Christian is responsible to care for the hurting and the downtrodden, and should not be in the business of creating further pain.

When men become a caricature of their worst qualities and this caricature is baptized as important and right, boundaries become impossible to maintain.