Quotes from Jesper Juul

Integrity and self-esteem are related. The more successfully parents look after a child's integrity, the greater the possibility that the child will develop healthy self-esteem.

is up to the parents to consider this fundamental question: "Am I genuinely able to give my child what they want and feel good about it—and not expect anything in return?

For the first time, we are ready to create genuine relationships that bestow equal dignity on men and women, and on adults and children. Never before in the history of mankind has this happened on such a large scale. The demand for equal dignity also means openness and respect for differences, which in turn means that we must abandon many of our impressions about what is generally right and wrong.

It is much better for us and our children when we aim to be ourselves rather than try to "do the right thing". Parents who are authentic are better parents than those who try to be theoretical parents. Parents who make mistakes and take responsibility for their mistakes are better parents than those who try to be perfect. Parents who strive for perfection will always make their children feel like failures and children who feel like failures often end up failing.

We often imagine that we'll develop more quickly if conflicts reach a conclusion, but this is rarely the case. Often the quest for resolution

The goals of the player are thus aligned with the goals of the protagonist; when the player succeeds, the protagonist succeeds. (...) The question is, can we imagine video games where this is inverted, such that when the player is successful, the protagonist fails? (...) Who would want to play Anna Karenina, the video game? Who would want to spend hours playing in order to successfully throw the protagonist under a train?

è difficile immaginare che relazioni tra adulti e figli basate su uguale dignità possano causare problemi. Credo invece che a determinarli siano l'irresponsabilità e l'autosufficienza.