Quotes from Leil Lowndes

Technique 52: Carrier pigeon kudos People immediately grow a beak and metamorphosize themselves into carrier pigeons when there's bad news. (It's called gossip.) Instead, become a carrier of good news and kudos. Whenever you hear something complimentary about someone, fly to them with the compliment. Your fans may not posthumously stuff you and put you on display in a museum like Stumpy Joe. But everyone loves the Carrier Pigeon of kind thoughts.

Remember, only fifty words makes the difference between a rich

Train your body to act confidently so your mind follows suit. This is what the experts recommend. It's a lot easier to whip your body into shape than your brain. You know all the basic stuff: Stand tall, look people in the eye, smile and speak up. Start practising your CONFIDENCE BOOSTERs on the least intimidating people. Work your way up to the most difficult.

Studies show mental rehearsal helps weekend athletes sharpen their golf, their tennis, their running, whatever their favourite activity. Experts agree if you see the pictures, hear the sounds, and feel the movements of your body in your mind before you do the activity, the effect is powerful.

The way you move is your autobiography in motion.

Do the thing you fear most and the death of fear is certain." MARK TWAIN

Suppose you're in a meeting and a colleague says something that you know is the sticky brown substance that bulls excrete.

Small talk is about putting people at ease. Your unspoken answer to their unspoken question, How do you like me so far? must be, Wow! I really like you.

No man would listen to you talk if he didn't know it was his turn next.

OK, we'll make it another time

the more eye contact, the more positive feelings.

I always try to turn the spotlight on the other person. Truly confident people often do this. They know they grow more by listening than talking.

Let's hear it again! The sweetest sound your conversation partner can hear from your lips when you're talking with a group of people is Tell them about the time you . . .

Never be left speechless again. Like a parrot, simply repeat the last few words your conversation partner says. That puts the ball right back in his or her court, and then all you need to do is listen.

It's not all what you say, it's how you say it.

have captured the hearts and conquered the minds of hundreds of others who helped boost them, rung by rung, to

Similarity breeds attraction. When you delay revealing your similarity, or let them discover it, it has much more punch.

The human brain, instinctively, and unfailingly translates everything into terms of How does that affect ME? Start every appropriate sentence with you.

When asked about what do you do. Flesh it out. Throw out some delicious facts about your job for new acquaintances to munch on.

Do you usually go hiking? This weekend, take a tennis lesson. Do you bowl? Leave that to your buddies this time. Why? Because it will give you conversational fodder for the rest of your life.

When introducing someone to another person: If you're not comfortable mentioning someone's job during the introduction, mention their hobby or even a talent.

Say I help people moving into our area find the right home.

Right after you've talked to someone at a party, take out your pen. On the back of his or her business card write notes to remind you of the conversation: his favourite restaurant, sport, movie, or drink; whom she admires, where she grew up, a high school honour; or maybe a joke he told. In your next communication, toss off a reference to the favourite restaurant, sport, movie, drink, hometown, high school honour.

All folks have a Big Ben in their brain that determines how receptive they are going to be to you and your ideas. When you mess with their internal clock, they won't listen to you. No matter how interesting your information, or how pleasant your call, bad timing means bad results for you.