Quotes from Leonard Sax

I did not find one that depicts a parent as consistently reliable and trustworthy.

The general lack of awareness of gender differences disadvantages both girls and boys, but it disadvantages them in different ways. When teachers don't understand these gender differences, the results too often is a school where the boys think that creative writing is for girls and the girls think physics is for guys. When teachers understand these gender differences they can break down gender stereotypes.

Dr. Melvin Connors sums it up nicely in just three words: culture stretches biology

Girls spend slightly more time playing with the doll than with the truck. Boys on the other hand typically spend great deal more time playing with the truck rather than with the doll.

As a society and as parents we face a challenge without precedent. We have to help girls and boys make a transition to a gendered adulthood, to adult life as women and men in a culture in which women can do anything, including being rocket scientists, and men can do anything, including staying home to raise a baby. We have to find ways to value and cherish gender differences without restricting freedom of opportunity.

Some boys are happier being more feminine than masculine although they still have masculine elements. Some girls are happier being more masculine than feminine although they still have feminine elements. The explosion in the proportion of people who believe that they are trance gender may well represent the failure to understand that gender is two-dimensional not one-dimensional.

Celebration of the new over the old easily translates into a celebration of young over the old, of young people over old people. The cult of youth, the celebration of youth for youth's sake s more pervasive in the United States than any other culture I have visited . . . When the culture values youth over maturity, the authority of parents is undermined.

The notion of the opposite sex assumes that you are either masculine or feminine. It assumes a one dimensional continuum: feminine - masculine. But researchers have known for more than forty years that that notional is just isn't accurate.

Don't pressure your daughter or your son to conform to gender stereotypes. If your son wants to take ballet classes, cheer him on. If your daughter wants to study marshal arts and computer programming, sign her up. Teach your son that there are all kinds of man in the world including men who excel at ballet and macrame. Teach your daughter that there are all kinds of women in the world, including women who are masters of karate and computer programming.

But biological sex, male or female, seems to run deeper than sexual orientation, gay or straight. Gay men whether masculine or feminine have more in common with straight men then they have in common with women.

Gender is important, gender is complicated and gender is meaningful. Know your child and celebrate the kind of girl or boy your child is becoming.

A subtle but pervasive bias has infiltrated gender studies over the past decade. A bias that allows saying unkind things about the majority under the guise of being kind to the minority. But I think the bias is bias.

In his essay for Wired, Thompson writes that "we're learning to live in front of a crowd." That's precisely the problem. The strain of living in front of a crowd, 24/7, 365 days a year, is what causes real celebrities to fall apart. Remember Britney Spears shaving her head and attacking that car with an umbrella? Spears was 25 years old at the time. She wasn't a teenager. She was (or was supposed to be) a mature adult. She was the mother of two young children.

Starting kids reading before they're ready can actually boomerang and turn them off to reading

son muchos los padres que dan por sentado que las buenas notas y las calificaciones elevadas son la mejor garantía y la clave para la felicidad futura. Pero se equivocan. Si quieres que tu hijo esté sano, sea rico y sea sabio, entonces tu prioridad no deberían ser los resultados relacionados con lo cognitivo, como las notas, sino la medida de su diligencia, con rasgos como la honestidad, la integridad y el autocontrol.

If there are 3 girls in a class with 11 boys those 3 girls may feel like they don't belong and no amount of preaching about gender equity is going to change that. But if the class is just girls you may get more girls to sign up and the girls will be more comfortable and will likely gain more competence.

Share everything. Play fair. Don't hit people. Put things back where you found them. Clean up your own mess. Don't take things that aren't yours. Say you're sorry when you hurt somebody. Wash your hands before you eat. Flush. Live a balanced life—learn some and think some and draw and paint and sing and dance and play and work every day some. When you go out into the world, watch out for traffic, hold hands, and stick together.

Girls and boys respond to stress differently - not just in our species, but in every mammal scientists have studied. Stress enhances learning in males. The same stress impairs learning in females.

The destructive effects of video games are not on boys' cognitive abilities or their reaction times, but on there motivation and their connectedness with the real world.

The destructive effects of video games are not on boys' cognitive abilities or their reaction times, but on their motivation and their connectedness with the real world.

Quoting an experienced school counselor: "You can't change a bully into a flower child, but you can change him into a knight.

If we fail to provide boys with pro-social models of the transition to adulthood, they may construct their own. In some cases, gang initiation rituals, street racing, and random violence may be the result.

Today, for most kids in the United States and Canada, kids' primary attachment is to other kids. "For the first time in history," Neufeld observes, "young people are turning for instruction, modeling, and guidance not to mothers, fathers, teachers, and other responsible adults but to people whom nature never intended to place in a parenting role—their own peers. .

Too often, parents today allow their desire to please their child to govern their parenting. If your relationship with your child is governed by your own desire to be loved by him or her, the odds are good that you will not achieve even that objective.