Quotes from Doug Rosenau

As a believer involved in any premarital relationship, you must assume the other person does not belong to you—that he or she may ultimately belong to another. Until marriage vows are exchanged, there are no guarantees. You should operate as if you are getting to know another man's future wife or another woman's future husband. Treat them with the respect you hope someone is showing your future spouse

While men are always fully responsible for what they do with the thoughts in their head, women must take responsibility for the role they play in providing any unnecessary erotic stimuli by their inappropriate dress or behavior. I

Our body wonderfully combines hormones, blood vessels, nerves, and skin to create attraction and desire. Our soul involves our mind and imagination, our will and our choice, our heart and our emotions. Our spirit gives us true love and creates an ability to become "one flesh" with another (Genesis 2:24).

Maintaining soul virginity and deeply honoring God's gift of sexuality are the ultimate antidotes for disrespect. Accept God's declaration that you are "fearfully and wonderfully made" (Psalm 139:14). Your body and sexuality are beautiful to him, and you can take great pleasure in that truth.

What, then, is his appraisal of your worth? He was willing to pay the price of his own Son's death on an executioner's cross to pay for your sin so you might have an intimate relationship with him. That's the value God places on you. If you truly see how precious and valuable a treasure you and your sexuality are to him, it will transform the way you allow others to treat you—"significant others" included.

God and Scripture alone are to be our standard of conduct and character.

When soul-sexy women are grounded in their God-given identities, they elicit the best from others with whom they are in relationship.

God looks at the heart of your erotic desire to understand how you are using your sexuality. When you mentally lust after someone with whom God wants to give you a pure connecting or coupling relationship, you contaminate and adulterate something potentially beautiful in your life. As

First, only God, through our relationship with Christ, can ever completely satisfy our intimacy needs for being unconditionally known and accepted. The intimate lovemaking between a man and a woman (as good and complete as that may feel) is only a taste of our ultimate love relationship with God.