Quotes from Anna Holmes

Some might call my trepidation at the idea of motherhood "selfishness"—I would call it "agency"—but those people are probably either (1) dudes or (2) self-satisfied professional parents, and I'm not sure I care enough about their opinions that I wouldn't just agree with them and shrug my shoulders in shared chagrin.

In other words, (cultural) exchange is about teasing out points of conflict, among other things. (Cultural) Appropriation suggests a significant amount of self-satisfaction and a desire to show off.