Quotes from Joe Navarro

smooth is fast.

The problem is that most people spend their lives looking but not truly seeing (..) You see, but you do not observe.

There is an old Latin saying, "Qui docet, discit" (He who teaches, learns). In many

When we are around someone who arouses us, our blink rate also tends to increase.

One can only see what one observes, and one observes only things which are already in the mind." Trust

when someone looks in a certain direction as they process a question or as they answer it, is that they are thinking—it is not per se indicative of deception.

Often when people say something they shouldn't have, people nearby will touch or scratch their closed eyelid—this is a good indicator that something improper was uttered. You see this often with politicians when one misspeaks and another catches it.

Commandment 3: Learn to recognize and decode nonverbal behaviors that are universal

Neck touching and/or stroking is one of the most significant and frequent pacifying behaviors we use in responding to stress. When women pacify using the neck, they often do so by covering or touching their suprasternal notch with their hand (see figure 7). The suprasternal notch is the hollow area between the Adam's apple and the breastbone that is sometimes referred to as the neck dimple. When

Commandment 4: Learn to recognize and decode idiosyncratic nonverbal behaviors.

literature. There has been a myth for decades, now well debunked by more than twenty studies, that a person looking away or to the side while answering a question is being deceptive.

Men adjust their ties to deal with insecurities or discomfort. It also covers the suprasternal notch.

Commandment 6: Always try to watch people for multiple tells—behaviors that occur in clusters or in succession.

We may stick out the tongue (usually to the side) as we focus assiduously on a task (for example when basketball great Michael Jordan goes up for a dunk)

Commandment 8: Learning to detect false or misleading nonverbal signals is also critical.

Blocking behaviors may manifest in the form of closing the eyes, rubbing the eyes, or placing the hands in front of the face. The person may also distance herself from someone by leaning away, placing objects (a purse) on her lap, or turning her feet toward the nearest exit.

partner, Dr. Watson, "You see, but you do not observe.

situational awareness," which is a sense of where one is at all times; they don't have a solid mental picture of exactly what is going on around them or even in

Commandment 10: When observing others, be subtle about it.

As Robert Hare, the world's leading expert on psychopathy has stated, psychopaths are "intra-species predators." They have the "capacity to do great harm, repeatedly, without remorse.

predators and habitual liars actually engage in greater eye contact than most individuals, and will lock eyes with you. Research clearly shows that Machiavellian people (for example, psychopaths, con men, and habitual liars) will actually increase eye contact during deception (Ekman, 1991, 141–142).

A rule of thumb: the truth teller merely conveys, while the liar often tries to convince.

Our eyes are the visual gateway to the world around us.

Many people think of a narcissist as someone who perhaps names hotels after himself or always wants to be in the spotlight—maybe a character on reality TV.