Quotes from Scott Turansky

relational maturity.

Contentment is being satisfied and grateful for what you have instead of grumbling about what you don't have. It is a spiritual quality that adds peace and joy to our lives without the feeling that we need something more.

Parents need real answers. It seems that many parenting books have been written by authors who have compliant children. They believe that by following a few steps, children will turn out great. Unfortunately, many parents find these books superficial, lacking the depth needed to provide significant change in their families.

Children believe things in their hearts, and much of what they believe comes from what their parents tell them.

Angry words might sometimes motivate children to do what you say, but a closer look reveals damaged family relationships. Short-term compliance comes at the cost of long-term closeness.

Romans 12:19 says, "Do not take revenge, my friends, but leave room for God's wrath." God's wrath in a person's life often comes in the form of guilt and conviction. As parents, we need to stay out of the boxing ring and allow the Holy Spirit to convict our children of sin. Instead of getting into the ring with your children, imagine going around the ring to the child's corner and becoming a coach.

Parenting isn't just about getting tasks done; it's about building relationships at the same time.

You'll need to discipline, but the way you do so can mean the difference between your child's heart being touched by God or being hardened by hurt and blame.