Quotes from Edward Teyber

Therapists will have much more impact when they are able to conceptualize or discern more precisely what this client's core problem really is, how it came about developmentally, and how it is being played out and causing symptoms and problems in his current life.

Although providing a corrective emotional experience may sound easy, it can be challenging to do—especially when all of this is so new to therapists-in-training. To help, Hill (2009) encourages therapists to be asking themselves the same process-oriented question throughout each session: Right now, am I co-creating a new and reparative relationship, or am I being drawn into a familiar but problematic interaction sequence that is reenacting for this client?

There are, in fact, no more important communications between one human being and another than those expressed emotionally, and no information more vital for constructing and reconstructing working models of the self and other than information about how each feels towards the other...it is the emotional communication between a patient and his therapist that play the crucial part. John Bowlby

We have also seen that they give clients feedback about the impact they are having on the therapist—and others. It can be a gift when therapists use process comments to provide interpersonal feedback, and therapists can find constructive, noncritical ways to help clients see themselves from others' eyes and learn about the impact they are having on others (such as regularly making others feel bored, intimidated, impatient, overwhelmed, confused, and so forth).

Toward the end of the first session, no matter how well it seems to have gone, the therapist is encouraged to ask clients how the session felt to them and whether they have any concerns about the treatment process or the therapist.

These unwanted performance pressures are generated when new therapists frame what they don't know or can't do yet as a "deficit" or as evidence of their inadequacy, rather than more realistically framing it as merely their own inexperience.

Object relations theorists are interested in understanding how formative interactions between parents and children become internalized by the child and, akin to cognitive schemas, serve as mental representations that shape or guide how children establish and carry out subsequent relationships with others.

Family systems theory offers therapists an invaluable way of understanding their clients' strengths and problems—clarifying the familial rules, roles, myths, communication patterns, and boundary issues that defined their clients' development.