Quotes from Sandra L. Brown

What makes psychopathy so different, so surreal, so much like a relational b@$*tch-slap that it nearly knocks her head off? --The sensation of being emotionally 'jumped' from behind. --The inability to wrap her head around the emotional-physical-spiritual-sexual gang-bang that just happened when she thought she was with the most wonderful person. No one can figure out how a dangerous psychopath curled up to them like a purring cat. Half of recovery is just trying to figure out 'what was THAT?

Women misjudged his pathology because of his prolific brain-games. He used gaslighting techniques to convince her she had a break with reality. Some survivors called it 'The Ultimate Mind Screw'--sending prominent female executives, attorneys, and doctors into mental institutions to recover from him. Coercion, psychological warfare techniques and Stockholm Syndrome symptoms have left survivors sawed off at the emotional knees by a smooth-talking and ear-to-ear grinning psychological terrorist.

The path to perceiving his disorder in all its destruction is littered with the remains of her mind and soul.

Stockholm syndrome, wherein people held in captivity begin to empathize and identify with their captors as a way of adapting to their situation. It is too incongruous to be in a relationship with someone whose thinking and behavior are disturbing. Something has to line up, so women accept the pathological thinking and behavior to eliminate the disturbance they feel.

Children pay attention to the truth their bodies tell them. Adults learn to allow their defense mechanisms to alter the truth . As adults we are alerted to danger by bodily sensations that we need to pay attention to. These could include a flash of fear , sweating, a tight stomach, a pounding heart, the hair standing up on the neck, or a general feeling of discomfort that we may be unable to name.

Spiritual intuition alerts us when we sense that something is not right or when we just "know" this isn't the person for us or the place for us to be in. We know these things without any overt knowledge or concrete information as to why we know them.

It's not safe to love everyone.