Quotes from Ellen Fein

Friends and colleagues meet halfway. Men (real men) pick up women at their apartments or offices for dates.

Men love independent women because they leave them alone. They love chasing women who are busy. It gives them a thrill, as big as a touchdown or a home run.

Another common response is, "What if our marriage doesn't work out? I want to make sure I have some money of my own." We have a problem with that, too. If a woman is going into a marriage with thoughts of "what if it doesn't work out," how committed can she be? Her problem is not money, but commitment or love.

In the romantic world, there's only one way that truly works. The man must be attracted to and then pursue the woman.

Men want to feel like they are dating a model or celebrity, so look like one!

You stop waiting anxiously for the phone to ring—because you're too busy living and pursuing your goals whether he calls or not.

We accept that some people don't want us and we go on to the next. We don't force people to love us.

treat the men we wanted like the men we didn't want.

You don't grovel. You're not desperate or anxious. You don't date men who don't want you. You trust in the abundance and goodness of the universe: if not him, someone better, you say. You don't settle. You don't chase anyone. You don't use sex to make men love you.

You told yourself that you don't have to do anything more on the date than show up. He'll either love you or not. It's not your fault if he doesn't call again. You're beautiful, inside and out. Someone else will love you if he doesn't.

If your husband is overweight, don't ask him how much he weighs or sneak up behind him when he stands on the bathroom scale.

Because you love yourself, you are no longer interested in men who ignore you, cheat on you, hurt you either physically or emotionally, and, of course, any man who can live without you.

After years of breaking Rules and settling for random hookups, she finally meets a cute guy and after one kiss she has an aha! moment. She realizes that she does want a healthy loving relationship, not just a lot of texting and sex.

Maybe she was born with it. Maybe it's Maybelline")

remind yourself that you are a very fulfilled person—stable, functional, and happy—with a career, friends, and hobbies, and that you are perfectly capable of living with or without him. You are not an empty vessel waiting for him to fill you up, support you, or give you a life. You are alive and enthusiastic, engaged in work and in living fully on your own.