Quotes from Shelle Rose Charvet

People transform their actual experience, their opinions, and so on, in ways that correspond to their own particular Deletions, Distortions, and Generalizations.

I used to be influenced by peer pressure, but my friends talked me out of it.

Do you feel bad enough now to make some changes or would you rather wait until you feel even worse?

We move, we grow, and our response to significant events in our lives can change how we function.

If we observe and listen carefully to how a person behaves and communicates linguistically, we can glean an understanding of how, neurologically, a person puts his or her experience together to be excellent, mediocre, or awful at the things he or she does. Hence, this field is called Neuro-linguistic Programming.

Active listening consists of paraphrasing what the other person said, in your own words, in order to show them what you understood.

You pay attention to how people answer, instead of what they say.

switched Contexts, listen for: When? Where? With whom? and a verb.

Coaching: The Conversational Coaching© methodology, where the coach elicits the client's LAB Profile® Patterns conversationally for their current situation and their desired state. The process enables the client to experience their desired state and develop their own solutions.

stepping on others' toes to get things done.

If you want to hire someone motivated to perform the job at hand, determine whether the job is mainly goal-oriented or is mainly about troubleshooting. Do you need someone who is excited about working toward goals, or someone who delights in solving crises?

By deleting, distorting and generalizing, we inhabit our perceptions and interpretations of Reality

To help you identify when someone is talking about or has switched Contexts, listen for: When? Where? With whom? and a verb. When people use these cues, they are telling you what a Context is for them: "When we are sitting in the living room with the kids, arguing about whether it's bedtime." "In client meetings, doing a needs analysis.

If you want to maintain your motivation over the long term, visualize what you want in front of yourself, i.e. I see a video of me fitting into my favorite skinny jeans, and feel the attraction of that image, drawing you towards it.

You pay attention to how people talk when they answer, rather than what they talk about. Even when a person does not answer the question directly, they will reveal their pattern by the manner in which they answer (or don't).

If you have the tendency to give too much information, the Two Sentence Principle might be for you. Speak two sentences and then observe or listen to your audience (whether one person or many). Do they want more? Do they look bored or want to leave?

According to a study quoted in the New York Times, the parents of ordinarily creative children had an average of 6 rules, while the parents of highly creative children only had one.[32] Fewer rules, telling your kids what to do and how to do it produces more creative kids. But they are probably harder to manage!