Quotes from Stephanie Donaldson-Pressman

Adults raised in a narcissistic homes cling to the fantasy that they can somehow manipulate or control their parent/family of origin system to get the recognition and approval they require (that is, to get their needs met.) They had this fantasy as children, and they maintain it as adults. The reality, though, is that they had little control over their parent system as children and have little control over it now.

we have noticed a single type of praise that is almost magical in its positive, lifelong effects on children: praise for trying something new.