Quotes from Stephen Elliott

You'd be amazed how much fun you can have if you get out of your own head. The problem is that now people are only interested in themselves. What we have is a non-voting generation. That's what they should call you guys, the non-voting generation. You think you can't fix anything until you fix yourselves. Well, let me be the first to tell you, you will never fix yourselves. p.32

A stranger can see in an instant something in you that you might spend years learning about yourself. How awful we all are when we look at ourselves under a light, finally seeing our reflections. How little we know about ourselves. How much forgiveness it must take to love a person, to choose not to see their flaws, or to see those flaws and love the person anyway. If you never forgive you'll always be alone.

We understand the world by how we retrieve memories, re-order information into stories to justify how we feel.

How awful we are all when we look at ourselves under a light, finally seeing our reflections+. How little we know about ourselves. How much forgivennes it must take to love a person , to choose not to see their flaws, or to see those flaws and love the person anyway. If you never forgive you'll always be alone.

We all think we're retaliating," I say. "That's the nature of conflict. We all think our actions are justified by someone else's actions. But actually, we're responsible for what we do.

In every book I ever wrote the point was to do as much as you could after coming to terms with your limitations.

You think you can't fix anything until you fix yourselves. Well, let me be the first to tell you, you will never fix yourself. p.32

According to Jung, a stranger can see in an instant something in you that you might spend years learning about yourself.

When we die our argument dies with us. The argument we never articulated well enough, that we were failed by our parents, and the schools, and the state. The cause of death is the missing safety net.

What we remember, and how we order and interpret what we believe to be true, are what shapes who we are.