Quotes from Ian Kerner

This may sound weird, but I love to listen to whale music when a guy goes down on me. I have all these bizarre underwater fantasies. Sometimes I even imagine that I'm the female whale and that I'm being called by the male whale, with his like, what, fifty-foot cock.

according to the authors of Sex in America: A Definitive Survey, "Twice as many women who went to college have given or received oral sex as compared to those who did not finish high school and twice as many of those better-educated women had or received oral sex the last time they had sex." Whereas

Few, if any, of the world's problems can be solved with a mere twenty minutes of attention, and yet here, in the complex sociopolitical landscape of the bedroom, we have an opportunity to create bilateral satisfaction. When put that way, in the context of sexual peace and equality, is twenty minutes of focused attention, applied appropriately, really too much to ask, especially if it can save your sex life?

Fantasy also helps your mind to shut down, an important component of the female orgasm. A recent study in which male and female brains were scanned during sexual arousal revealed that women virtually fall into a 'trance' during orgasm and that this brain "deactivity" is necessary for a female to orgasm. A big part of female arousal, much more so than of male arousal, seems to be deep relaxation and a lack of anxiety. Fantasy helps that happen. Says

hugging each other at least three times a day: once before leaving for work, a second time when arriving home, and a third time before going to sleep. If you do nothing else, hug three times—but truly hug.

I came to the realization that I needed to become my best self in order to attract the kind of guy I would want to marry. If I wanted someone truly fabulous, I had better become truly fabulous first.

The difference between the right word and the nearly right word is the same as that between lightning and the lightning bug.

One should not make more assumptions than are absolutely necessary.

As Aristotle observed, "A beautiful object, whether it be a living organism or any whole composed of parts, must not only have an orderly arrangement of parts, but must also be of a certain magnitude; for beauty depends on magnitude and order.

Imagine going through years of your life with the gut feeling that none of it really matters yet, that it will start at some point in the future, and that the present doesn't really count. Does this feeling seem familiar? Have you ever told yourself that everything will ultimately fall into place once you [fill in the blank]? Who wouldn't wind up numbed to real hope and possibility after exerting so much energy for stuff that really doesn't matter?

As long as you're living in the meantime, you'll never really know what you're missing. And by doing so, your life is just a rehearsal for a performance that never comes.

SEX IS THE MAIN way guys express their emotions. Making love is our way of saying "I love you" and truly feeling it, as well as really meaning it. While women generally deem closeness a prerequisite for engaging in sex, for a man, having sex is the main way of achieving a true sense of closeness with a woman. Brain

What that means is you're no longer looking for a protector or a provider but a partner on equal footing.

I was sure that on my gravestone, my epitaph would read, 'He came. He saw. And then he came again.

The Cultural Psychology of the Clitoris

While compromising may be the name of the game in the world of business, in this candy land we call love, it is not compromising your standards and remembering what you really want and deserve that will ultimately win the day.

When the Tigress plays, the dragon whips its tail.

I held on to this fantasy like a stubborn little pit bull.

For many millennia men faced their enemies; they sat or walked side by side as they hunted game with their friends." So unless you want your words to send him into battle, use evolution to your advantage and have a sex talk with him while taking a walk or drive, or just sitting comfortably next to each other on the couch. Prepare

All in all, it does not appear that ejaculation, voluntary or involuntary, does much to enhance the pleasure of orgasm. To that end, a woman's time would be better spent on Kegel exercises and the strengthening of the pelvic floor muscles—an exercise known to increase the quality of orgasmic contractions.

From each according to their abilities, to each according to their needs." —The Communist Manifesto

you cannot plunge in blindly…lest you miss the forest for the trees and there be no end to your labors.

Again we take our cue from Strunk and White: "Before beginning to compose something, gauge the nature and extent of the enterprise, and work from a suitable design…

You should be kissed, and often, and by someone who knows how." —Clark Gable