Quotes from Katherine Woodward Thomas

The only way to outrun the sorrow of losing the attentions and affections of the person you have loved is to use the fierce and fiery pain of it to catalyze your own awakening and propel you to become the person you were born to be.

the heart of all attachment is fear regulation

Unfairly, nature seems to have designed it so that the one person in the whole world who can best calm us down when we're terrified is unfortunately the same person who is terrifying us.

To give up having to be right, having to prove someone else wrong, having to have the last word, having to be understood—that is the mark of a person who is ready to create a loving relationship that can last and flourish over time.

We all know that once we allow fear to hijack us and step into the driver's seat of our lives, that we're apt to say and do some really dumb, pretty destructive things.

chronically overgiving as a way to try to prove her value.

Once she saw herself as the source of her disappointing love story

Once she saw herself as the source of her disappointing love story, Dianna discovered there was no shortage of evidence that she was the author of her own deep aloneness in life.

Much of the horror of a breakup is the insult to our expectations of how this story was supposed to unfold versus how it actually did.

If it lasts, then it's real. If it doesn't, then it wasn't. Either that, or someone screwed it up really badly.

Freedom is what you do with what's been done to you. JEAN-PAUL SARTRE

assume to be the cause and effect of our actions.

Each action you take, each choice you make, will grow something in your life and in our world.

The Sun Never Says." Even after all this time, the sun never says to the earth "You owe me." Look what happens with a love like that. It lights the whole sky.

leaving each other, and all those impacted by our separation, whole, healthy, and complete rather than wounded, walled off, and significantly broken by the experience.

That you're not missing your former love as much as you're missing the person you thought he or she was.

When they have reached their term, take them back in kindness, or part from them in kindness. KORAN

the human potential movement, as it encourages us to be undeterred by our current life conditions, to nobly strive toward the possibilities of an abundant and flourishing life, no matter what evidence we might be experiencing to the contrary.

When Andrew extended himself to meet Claudia's needs, she did not back up or push him away. She

Transformation often begins with what we're willing to subtract from our lives, rather than what we're trying to add.

Failure is just another way to learn how to do something right. MARIAN WRIGHT EDELMAN

If you are operating under the illusion that you can continue to hold on to people who you know are not good for you, and still create an extraordinary life filled with love and fulfillment, then you are fooling yourself. Toxic ties cost us and they cost us big time. If you are feeling stuck in your life, look to see who or what it is that you are stuck to.

Every way that you've given away your power, denied your own deeper knowing, put someone else's feelings and needs before your own, stayed embedded in a victimized story, or settled for less in life—all of it is now up for review. You have nowhere to hide. Life has broken you open and it is violently, mercilessly forcing you to evolve, to develop, and to grow.

Until you are able to see yourself living the life that you truly want, it will be difficult for you to create it.