Quotes from Kerry Egan

If God is love, and I believe that to be true, then we learn about God when we learn about love. The first, and usually the last, classroom of love is the family.

Every single person out there has a crazy story. Every single person has some bizarre, life-shattering, pull-the-rug-out-from-under-you story in their past, or will experience one in their future.

most of life, you can be weak inside and get through by putting on a tough outer shell. But if you work in hospice, you have to stay soft on the outside. So in order to stand up straight, you have to have a spine of steel. Two ways to go through the world, two ways to deal with the loss that is an inevitable experience in life—with a hard shell or with a rock-solid backbone.

The things you lose do shape who you become. There's no getting around that. But the losses don't obliterate what came before.

The only way I could seem to cope with this overwhelming longing was by perseverating about what I could have changed.

When grief develops and grows, the suffering at the heart of it changes, too. It becomes less acute, less raw and fiery. I'm not sure it diminishes, but it somehow becomes diffused across the memories that surround the loss at the heart of it. It seems less concentrated, and therefore more bearable.

Life is a million choices, and every choice is a choice not to do something else, and so regrets accrue with life.

Whatever bad things have happened to you in your life, whatever hard things you've gone through, you have to do three things: You have to accept it. You have to be kind to it...And listen to me. You have to let it be kind to you.

Inever did become wise. Y'always think that when you get old, you're supposed to become wise. But here I am, fixin' to die, and I never did." Gloria's milky blue eyes widened and she raised her eyebrows. She laughed, just a little bit.

Knowing yourself" or "finding yourself" can be dangerous. It can cement you into a strict role & saddle you with unnecessary expectations. It can close you off to inner potential & outer opportunities.

The world is not black and white. There is no black and white. There's only gray. You have to live in the gray, or you got no kindness in your heart. You gotta see the gray.