Quotes from Christiane Northrup M.D.

When we dim our light to make others feel more comfortable, the whole world gets darker.

I pledge allegiance to myself and to my Soul for which I stand. I honor my goodness, my gifts, and my talents. I commit to remaining loyal to myself from this moment forward for all of my days.

To heal our past, we must first become aware of how Darkness works. Shining a light on it is the first step. And then forgiving ourselves and being unconditionally loving—and also changing our behavior, if necessary—is the next step to clean up the legacy for good.

A]ny ecstatic experience can be healing not just for you but for others. Therapy is good to help you think differently and break patterns of pessimistic thinking or negative self-talk. But we have to be joyful, dance, and bring pleasure into our lives deliberately.

We are all hungry for genuine connection and caring, and we will not get this unless we find our Soul's tribe. If we don't find this, we'll kill ourselves, either by finding an addiction to mask the pain or by ignoring what we need to stay healthy.

If someone is snarky or critical, I no longer try to "buff them up," send love, or try to explain my position. If the comment is nasty or a put-down, I just delete it. If it happens again, I simply press "ban user.

Dr. Mario Martinez teaches that love is toxic to a toxic person. And that there are only so many milligrams of love that a toxic person can take before they become mean or nasty.

Once you face down your fears of saying no, you'll be much better able to stick to situations that don't drain you.

When you dim your light to please others, the whole world gets darker.

You must first feel as bad as you're feeling and move your emotions of anger and hurt out of your body. You do this by feeling them fully and expressing them in a safe way.

Every morning before you get out of bed, say the following: "I expand in abundance, success, and love every day as I inspire those around me to do the same.

Do not make the mistake of thinking that you can defend yourself against this. You can't. Just walk away. Don't try to make your case. At the end of the day, you will be judged by your behavior—not your words. Walking away is very powerful.

The reason 12-step programs can be so helpful is that, very often, empaths become addicted to their vampire partners.

Here's the deal. When another individual is completely disconnected from their well-being and their joy, this has absolutely nothing to do with you on any level. You didn't attract this. You are not responsible for it. The only thing you are responsible for is your own energy field. And when you learn how to pay attention to that—and only that—you're free.

One more tip. Gay Hendricks came up with what he calls the "Ultimate Success Mantra" as a good place to start. Every morning before you get out of bed, say the following: "I expand in abundance, success, and love every day as I inspire those around me to do the same.

If your mate is not overall 51 percent valuable, you cannot stay with them and remain healthy. Being in a toxic relationship may be a sign of unconditional love, but it's also a sign that you love them more than yourself. That is a sign of mental illness.

We must also learn to respect our shadow—that part of us we try to hide so others won't know how we "really" are. This includes our negativity, sorrow, jealousy, anger, and grief.

Whenever you do something that you consider a mistake—like spilling something, tripping, forgetting an appointment, feeling sad, getting angry, or feeling stuck—notice it and congratulate yourself. This is so counterintuitive that it will instantly shift your energy.

We don't even know that we're dealing with one of these masters of Darkness until we become physically ill, lose our friends, our jobs, our incomes, our fertile years, and eventually even our self-esteem and dignity.

It's very easy to diagnose a borderline. They screw you over, rip you off, commit whatever transgression, and then they blame you for it.

One of the best ways to minimize your interaction with energy vampires is to become "empowered in the negative." In other words, learn how to turn people down, even if you have to hurt them a bit in the process. This is essential. Be like those old drug commercials: Just Say No.

Boys who have been shamed tend to act out, while girls turn their shame inward, often creating depression, eating disorders, or perfectionism.

Remember that Darkness feeds on your fear and anger, so stop feeding it.

Remember, they are born this way. Just as you didn't choose to be born as an empath, they didn't choose to be born with their personality. So the goal here isn't to judge them as evil or try to fix them. It is simply to avoid them, or at the very least, set up very healthy boundaries, and save yourself.