Quotes from Thomas J. Harbin

This intense desire to control is an attempt to maintain dignity in spite of low self-regard. Think about it. In addition to keeping everything safe, the exercise of power temporarily boosts angry men's low self-esteem. [...] Like many kings and other powerful people, however, angry men will soon doubt the affection of those they control. They will always wonder if they are "really" loved by family members, or if their family is just acting that way out of fear.

Denial is a short-term solution that provides temporary comfort.

One of the differences between assertiveness and aggressiveness is deciding which battles are worth fighting and which are not.

Which takes more courage: to rigidly and inflexibly defend a principle, or to demonstrate a sense of perspective and willingness to compromise or walk away from a senseless argument?

today's heavy emphasis on competition and humiliation of your "opponent" (whether in sports, business, or family), our culture sets men up for anger and unhappiness.