Quotes from Daniel Gottlieb

It's very difficult to give up on things we can't control. And that's what a divorce represents. It represents the ultimate loss of control, a marriage and a mate we can't control. And if we give up on the mate and the marriage, by acknowledging that loss, we can free ourselves of the anger and resentment - and that will liberate our children. Finally, children are not affected by our grief and mourning. They are affected by our inability to grieve and mourn.

If we feel guilty about some aspect of our sexuality, I hope we can understand where that's coming from within ourselves and take responsibility for it. But feeling guilty is not taking responsibility; that comes with understanding the true origins of our guilt. And when that happens, it makes sexuality less burdensome for our children. It may not heal the scars and might not undo the damage, but it will certainly open some doors in their lives.

I think we are born square and we die round. As waters of life wash over us, we lose our sharp corners, and that can be good; we take on surprising, satisfying new shapes.

Early on, I loved ''my grandson''. After six months, I loved you. And I think something similar happened with your love for me.

being different is not a problem. It's just being different. but feeling different is a problem. When you feel different, the feeling can actually change the way you see the world.

Your differentness and my different-ness are just facts. Sometimes what we do with our minds turn those facts into pain, and sometimes we can just treat them as facts, acknowledging them but not feeling them. But the more you feel your different-ness, the more lonely you will feel.

When any relationship begins to sour, the details are different but the emotions are much the same: betrayal, disappointment, shattered dreams, and deadly silence.

Dependency carries with it resentment. that's inevitable. If people believe they cannot survive without each other, a relationship can be more like a prison than a partnership.

more often, the payoff is better if you don't pretend you feel strong when you feel weak or pretend that you are brave when you're scared. I really believe the world might be a safer place if everyone who felt vulnerable wore flashers that said, "I have a problem and I'm doing the best I can".