Quotes from Dan Savage

I wouldn't say that holidays are manufactured by corporations, but they're certainly exploited and mined by them.

Actual gay people can make many others feel uncomfortable and paranoid because they don't know and can't articulate what makes a person gay, and they worry that maybe they themselves are gay.

I think the best thing for you to do is just live your life. Live a life that's worth living, one where you do what you want to do, pursue your passions. That way, if you meet someone, they'll be joining a life that's already really good.

We all have our scars. That's what falling is love is all about: revealing your scars to somebody who then loves you anyway.

Every question is a hypothetical question for everyone but the person who asks it.

I am not an idiot, and I'm not a Pollyanna sort of kumbaya type.

The cultural expectation should be if there's infidelity, the marriage is more important than fidelity.

the truth is often a mixed message

If what you want is a life where your homosexuality is not an issue, move, as many have done.

I treat people who write me the way my friends and I all treat each other when we go to each other for advice, which is sometimes with supreme cruelty.

There are so many people out there with less shame talking about their problems.

A huge part of what animates homophobia among young people is paranoia and fear of their own capacity to be gay themselves.

Preaching to the choir actually arms the choir with arguments and elevates the choir's discourse. There's a reason the right does it and does it well and triumphs.

You know, my problem is I cant say no to people, especially people who want to write me checks to do things.

You want to help gay kids, you have to reach them in middle school and high school, when they're being bullied.

The successes of the LGBT civil rights movement and the more prominent role openly gay people are playing in the public eye has actually turned up the temperature in middle schools and high schools for queer kids.

Christmas can have a real melancholy aspect, 'cause it packages itself as this idea of perfect family cohesion and love, and you're always going to come up short when you measure your personal life against the idealized personal lives that are constantly thrust in our faces, primarily by TV commercials.

A lot of people are living their lives online in much more public ways with Facebook and Twitter.

When you're a writer, you want to try to avoid cliches. Unfortunately, when you're writing about marriage or family, all cliches seem to apply.

Children have a right to some stability and constancy from the adults in their lives.

Like it or not children are being raised by gay and lesbian parents all over America - as many as 10 million children. And it does nothing to make their lives more stable and secure to attack their families, to attack their parents to prevent us from marrying each other.

I believe it's in the best interests of a child to be in a stable environment.

I'm always telling people who say two men can't make a baby: 'Anything is possible for God. I'm going to keep inseminating my husband and keep my fingers crossed.'

One man's piss-soaked sadomasochistic orgy is another man's poetic ecstasy.