Quotes from Ruth Westheimer

if there are no demonstrations of love between two people, there is no actual love. If one half of a couple never wants to hold hands, never wants to cuddle, won't lift a finger to assist his or her partner in any way, forgets every important date, or barely says two words over dinner, then I say that person is saying loud and clear that he or she doesn't have any love in his or her heart.

When each generation listens to different music instead of music that keeps a culture and society together, it can end up dividing us.

It matters a great deal that I come from a Jewish background.

When I came to this country, people told me that if I wanted to teach and work here, I would have to take speech lessons to lose my accent. But it helped me greatly, because when people turned on the radio, they knew it was me.

I am a very good sniper, and I can put five bullets into that red circle and I know how to throw hand grenades.

I may have been on the cover of People and gone on 'David Letterman' and 'Arsenio Hall' because they had young audiences I wanted to talk to. But at the same time, I always did serious books or taught seminars.

When some women literally throw themselves at you, it's easy to get confused and think that every woman is eager for your attentions.

If someone has gone through a lot of emotional pain, including the loss of loved ones, that person may try to build a shell around his or her feelings to protect him- or herself from the pain.

When I started the radio program in 1981, not many people were talking about sexuality. Not many people were talking about AIDS or HIV.

Yes, for me Hanukkah is very sad. But the life force that's in me makes it a wonderful holiday, too.

Because of my experience with the Holocaust, I don't like to lose friends.

I don't believe in honesty at all costs.

When the first armies were formed, combat took courage, which women share equally with men, and strength, which we do not. But though I am only 4 feet 7 inches tall, with a gun in my hand I am the equal of a soldier who's 6 feet 7 - perhaps even at a slight advantage, as I make a smaller target.

It is a catastrophe, all of this virtual being together. I think there are people who get hooked on the internet. If they need to look at explicitly sexual material to be aroused there is a problem.

Skiers make the best lovers because they don't sit in front of a television like couch potatoes. They take a risk and they wiggle their behinds. They also meet new people on the ski lift.

Luckily for me, I don't depend on seeing every patient who comes through my door to pay the rent, and so if someone is involved in an activity that I don't like, I just don't accept that person as a client.

I lived, while 1 1/2 million Jewish children died. So I have an obligation to repair the world.

I learned to assemble a rifle in the dark and was trained as a sniper so that I could hit the center of the target time after time. As it happened, I never did get into actual combat, but that didn't prevent my being severely wounded. I almost lost both my feet as a result of a bombing attack on Jerusalem.

If Congress wants to get involved in the business of morality by allowing a moment of silence in our schools, I support that. But if our representatives in Washington are truly going to be moral leaders, then they have to do more than just tell us to pray for guidance.

At first I was against Internet dating because there are some inherent risks, but I've seen so many happy couples who've met on the Internet that I've changed my mind.

I'm a black-diamond skier and can dance the whole night - if I find a good partner!

German Jews don't show their emotions in public.

It's good to be a widow in New York, because I can do something every night.

Don't share your fantasies unless you're sure your partner really wants to hear them.