Quotes from Helen Fisher

We are lied to by our love songs.

You can be instantly scared. You can be instantly happy. So why can't you be instantly romantically in love? I think when it happens, it's because you are ready to fall in love.

People compose poetry, novels, sitcoms - for love.

You know, when you've been dumped, the one thing you love to do is just forget about this human being, and then go on with your life - but no, you just love them harder.

Falling in love was not really a choice; it just struck me.

People have been looking for love potions since hunter-gatherer societies.

Games are the way we keep romance alive. They're based in human hardwiring. Playing hard-to-get or leaving a little to the imagination allows the woman to be wooed and appreciated and the man to be challenged and intrigued.

Mothers really were not built to raise babies not only by themselves, but with only a partner. For millions of years, a woman had much more than just her husband to help rear her young... This whole idea of 'it takes a village to raise a child' is exactly how we're supposed to live.

Why do we feel jealousy? Therapists often regard the demon as a scar of childhood trauma or a symptom of a psychological problem. And it's true that people who feel inadequate, insecure, or overly dependent tend to be more jealous than others.

We still have community, but we don't seem to have local community. Even in a small town where you know your neighbors and your mother's down the street, they're not in arm's length.

When you massage someone, the levels of oxytocin go up in the brain, and oxytocin is one of the chemicals that drives attachment.

Psychologists maintain that the dizzying feeling of intense romantic love lasts only about 18 months to - at best - three years.

Almost always, when I'm on TV, the producers who call me, who negotiate what we're going to say, is a woman.

More and more of us live segmented, compartmentalized lives. This isn't natural. For millions of years, our forebears knew everyone around them and everyone knew them.

From my studies of genetics and neuroscience I have come to believe that people fall into four broad personality types - each influenced by a different brain chemical: I call them the Explorer, Builder, Director, and Negotiator.

People have often asked me whether what I know about love has spoiled it for me. And I just simply say, 'Hardly.' You can know every single ingredient in a piece of chocolate cake, and then when you sit down and eat that cake, you can still feel that joy.

Men and women are like two feet; they can help each other get ahead.

Women have never been as interesting as they are now. Not at any time on this planet have women been so educated, so interesting, so capable.

Despite the myth that men are less committed, they are predisposed to desire marriage.

Men have a psychological need to show off their courage and strength. When he sees you talking to another guy, that instinct kicks in and he jumps to protect you and prove he's worthy of your love.

Natural beauty really entices men. They will tell you this time and time again, and studies consistently prove it.

Women's worst invention was the plow. With the beginning of plow agriculture, men's roles became extremely powerful. Women lost their ancient jobs as collectors.

There exists no culture in which adultery is unknown, no cultural device or code that extinguishes philandering.

Young women today do not marry the men they met in high school, or even the one they go out with at college, because they do not need to.