Quotes from Matthew Hussey

You know he's invested when he doesn't treat his 'friend time' and 'girlfriend time' as mutually exclusive.

I once told a date, 'I love what you're wearing!' She replied, 'Aw, thanks. I've gotten so many compliments on it. Yours means the most though!' She didn't need to tell me guys were hitting on her - my imagination went there anyway.

Women want to attract a 'high-value' man. If that's the man you want to attract you have to be high value yourself.

We live in a very mollycoddled society where the slightest bit of discomfort is seen as wrong, but that discomfort is there for a reason. It's supposed to trigger some form of action, some form of change, a realization of a truth - something, and I think the self-help world has you believing that you should be happy all the time.

How do you bust out of the friend zone? It's a horrible place to be when you end up there unintentionally with someone you have a romantic interest in.

A friend of mine once earnestly said to his girlfriend, 'You look so pretty tonight,' and she replied, 'You're such a dork.' Her deflection was a total turn-off. It didn't make him feel attractive, nor did it encourage him to keep complimenting her.

Guys don't approach women who look like they are going to say 'Sorry, no.'

Here's the truth that everyone misses - you must not invest in a guy based on how much you like him. You have to invest in a guy based on how much he invests in you.

The number one mistake people make in attraction is either doing too much or too little.

I think people don't want be alone. Ultimately, we want to feel connected. We want to feel like there is someone who actually sees us in the world. That's the big thing: to be seen. How many people actually feel seen?

I've spoken to over 10,000 guys in my career, so I know what they think when it comes to dating.

If you're in business and you make a sales call and that lead doesn't buy from you, you don't sit there all day mourning the loss of that lead. You go out there and make 10 more sales calls!

People don't want to be put on the spot over whether or not they like you, they want to come to that conclusion themselves. It's ok to let someone know you're interested, but there's no need to go any further than that.

The thing that actually makes a guy settle down is when a woman comes along who has a different set of standards than the other women he's met. Then she immediately becomes unique.

In terms of relationships, women often completely over-estimate the confidence of men, and forget about needing to feel validated.

He's more of a slob than you? Instead of condemning, state your standards: 'I need to live in a place that's clean. I respect that it's not a big deal to you, but it's important to me to enjoy my home.' This removes ego.

Women all think that if a guy likes you he will come and talk to you. That's nonsense - 'actually the opposite is true. The more attractive he finds you, the less likely it is he'll talk to you.

When you're in love with the work, the energy comes more naturally. You want to wake up in the morning to write more material, or to go on stage and give every shred of emotion you have.

The right man applauds your potential, he doesn't stifle it.

If you label someone lazy or a liar, he'll feel like that for life. Worse, guys lose motivation to change when we feel like your perception of us is set in stone.

Men feel safe and more open when they know that the woman they're talking to approves of their passion for a particular band/book/cereal.

There is literally no one on earth who isn't interested in relationship dynamics, or how to meet someone special. Or if they've already met someone special, how to make that relationship as good as it can be. It's a universal subject.

I have strong views, and I can't imagine not ever being honest about those views.