Quotes from Rosalind Wiseman

THE POWER OF THE GROUP We all want to feel a sense of belonging. This isn't a character flaw. It's fundamental to the human experience. Our finest achievements are possible when people come together to work for a common cause. School spirit, the rightful pride we feel in our community, our heritage, our religion, and our families, all come from the value we place on belonging to a group.

we often make the mistake of believing that if a boy doesn't come to us with problems, then he doesn't have them.

People fight over technology in ways they never would face-to-face because they can say their version of events without getting immediate feedback that might challenge it. It allows people to throw more intense self-righteous temper tantrums.

The stakes are so high. Our boys deserve meaningful relationships, the freedom to pursue what interests and challenges them, a feeling of belonging and social connection to others, and a sense that they're contributing to something larger than themselves.

What I'm talking about is how we maintain our ethics and moral compass when we're in a group. Why? Because conflict is inevitable, and at some point one person will abuse his or her power over another person.

Be very, very nice to your school's computer specialist. He, along with the custodians, is often the most underappreciated person in the building.

I made a big mistake, which I'm really trying to deal with. You bringing it up makes me feel worse. I'm not sure if that's your point, but I promise you that I would never make you feel bad if you were in my situation, so I'm done talking about this." GIRLS

Because although we have told girls that they're as smart and as competent as boys, they still get conscious and unconscious messages that they need a man to validate their self-worth and that, to get the man in the first place, they have to present themselves in a nonthreatening (read feminine) manner.

Communicating a passionate response to world events is no longer limited to protests and rallies.

Sometimes bullies are your friends and very rarely do bullying prevention tips acknowledge this fact or what to do about it.

Sleeping with your phone in your bedroom is never a good idea, but it's even worse when you're bullied online because it's too tempting to stay up all night trying to 'fix' the situation - which isn't possible anyway.

Boys and boys' body image and clothes have become just as important an issue for boys as for girls.

Kids don't like being put into boxes, and your kid can act in different ways in different situations.

I talk to teens everyday about topics that are often extraordinarily uncomfortable.

See, at a certain point it becomes cool to be boy crazy. That happens in sixth grade, and it gives you so much social status, particularly in an all-girls school, if you can go up and talk to boys.

Well, I think having your kids see you role model behavior of dignity when it's hard, when you're upset, when you want to confront somebody but you don't want to and you're nervous about it, when you are having moments where abuse of power is coming on to you. I think it's really important for kids to see how you handle that.

So many women keep their anger inside and let it build until they explode and then people blow them off again.

As a teacher myself I've been in situations where parents come at you, and sometimes parents come across like the teacher doesn't want the best for their kid and it can be really, really hurtful.

Advancements in technology have become so commonplace that sometimes we forget to stop and think about how incredible it is that a girl on her laptop in Texas can see photos and cell phone video in real time that a young college student has posted of a rally he's at in Iran.

The hazing experience and then the subsequent participation in the group forces its members to maintain the status quo and traditions at all costs. It demands mindlessness and unquestioned loyalty, resulting in boring people who have little ability to think for themselves or have an opposing viewpoint from those who have the most social power.