Quotes from Iyanla Vanzant

You can accept or reject the way you are treated by other people, but until you heal the wounds of your past, you will continue to bleed. You can bandage the bleeding with food, with alcohol, with drugs, with work, with cigarettes, with sex, but eventually, it will all ooze through and stain your life. You must find the strength to open the wounds, stick your hands inside, pull out the core of the pain that is holding you in your past, the memories, and make peace with them.

What keeps us from achieving our heart's desires is not anything outside of us, it's the conflict inside.

Education does not take place when you learn something you did not know before. Education is your ability to use what you have learned to be better today than you were yesterday.

Everything we experience-no matter how unpleasant-comes into our lives to teach us something.

If you want a real experience of serenity, look for the good. Affirm the good. Acknowledge the good.

Faith without challenge is nothing.

If you are afraid to take a chance, take one anyway. What you don't do can create the same regrets as the mistakes you make.

When you can tell the story and it doesn't bring up any pain, you know it is healed.

For some reason,we keep forgetting some of our experience. We look back but don't bring the value forward. We bring the anger, the upset. We bring the fear.

Everything is just as it needs to be. And if we would forgive, our minds and hearts would open and we could see another possibility.

Forgiveness leads to a shift in perception. It transforms the hurt into healing.

Forgiveness is not about the other person or what they did. Forgiveness is for YOU and about YOU.

From speaking with my mother I learned that forgiveness is a process that begins with the choice to end your own suffering.

To me, freedom means having the power, the inherent right, the capacity and the ability to make choices that honour who I am.

When you give to others to the degree you sacrifice yourself, you make others a thief. They are stealing from you what you need, and they dont even know it.