Quotes from Francois Lelord

T]he greatest gift you can give someone is to introduce them to someone new.

Because there are times when getting up to mischief isn't mischievous and other times when it is and you shouldn't do it.

Lesson no. 3: Many people see happiness only in their future.

The old monk said, 'The basic mistake people make is to think that happiness is the goal!' And

by adding together these three differences - between what we have and what we'd like to have, what we have now and the best of what we've had in the past, and what we have and what other people have - you get an average difference which is closely related to happiness. The smaller the difference, the happier we are.

And besides, you can feel useful to others without necessarily expecting gratitude and still be happy.

because those are the two things you want to do most when you love somebody: to save them (sometimes from themselves) and to be near them always.

The best advice is found on the pillow', he

He knew his love for her was more a desire to save her, to be her superhero, and it was partly a desire to do what people who are in love do, and partly a desire to feel young again with her, because Ying Li was very young, and she looked even younger.

Because the problem with psychiatry is that you mostly study people who aren't doing so well, whereas if you spent a little more time studying people who are doing very well, it might give you some good ideas to help the ones who are not.

Music is a very good way of thinking about time. A note only moves you because you remember the one before, and you're waiting for the next . . . Each one only means something wrapped in a bit of the past and the future.

que dit le professeur, ils comprennent la moitié de ce qu'ils ont écouté, ils retiennent la moitié de ce qu'ils ont compris, et ils se servent de la moitié de ce qu'ils ont retenu, c'est-à-dire pas grand-chose, à la fin.

Happiness is knowing how to celebrate

Listening is loving

those who believed in the Good Lord, for whom death was just a journey, and it didn't make them sad at all

He wondered why he wasn't as in love with her as he was with...Hector had only shared enjoyment with (her)...he shared everything, enjoyment and sorrow...but for some time now they'd shared too much frustration, boredom and fatigue.

Notice that we say 'more psychiatrists than anywhere else in the world' but we could just as well say more swimming pools, more Nobel prizewinners, more strategic bombers, more apple pies, more computers, more natural parks, more libraries, more cheerleaders, more serial killers, more newspapers, more racoons, more of many more things, because it was the country of More, and had been for a long time.

En las redes sociales, un resultado elevado de narcisismo estaría correlacionado con una actividad intensa en el reclutamiento de gran número de «amigos» o de seguidores para dar una imagen grandiosa de uno mismo, sin tratar de desarrollar relaciones personales.

Los rasgos de personalidad se caracterizan por tanto por la forma habitual de percibir nuestro entorno y a nosotros mismos, así como las maneras habituales de comportarse y reaccionar.

You must be careful when you ask people whether they're happy; it's a question that can upset them a great deal.

nature or nurture' said the professor. 'Whichever way the parents are to blame

But the reasons why Hector was unhappy were quite complex. He didn't really want to think about it, perhaps because those reasons weren't so easy to accept. It even made him feel a little afraid. He knew this fear too well, it was what stopped his patients from being able to really think about their problems, and it was his job to help them overcome this fear and understand what was happening to them.

Nobody wants to live with a person who'll never be happy.

Very different from eros is philia, a serene love much more akin to friendship, with its reciprocal kindnesses. You love each other for the happy experiences and pleasures you share.