Quotes from Carol S. Dweck

If parents want to give their children a gift, the best thing they can do is to teach their children to love challenges, be intrigued by mistakes, enjoy effort, and keep on learning.

Before we judge, let's remember that effort isn't quite everything and that all effort is not created equal.

Conventional wisdom says that you know who your friends are in your times of need. And of course this view has merit. Who will stand by you day after day when you're in trouble? However, sometimes an even tougher question is: Who can you turn to when good things happen? When you find a wonderful partner. When you get a great job offer or promotion. When your child does well. Who would be glad to hear it?

The top is where the fixed-mindset people hunger to be, but it's where many growth-minded people arrive as a by-product of their enthusiasm for what they do.

Somebodies are people who go for it with all they have.

tune in to the messages you're sending. Are they messages that say: You have permanent traits and I'm judging them? Or are they messages that say You're a developing person and I'm interested in your development?

If you work hard at something, you get out what you put in.

It's amazing—once a problem improves, people often stop doing what caused it to improve. Once you feel better, you stop taking your medicine.

For in the world of the fixed mindset, there is no way to become an Eagle. If you were a true Eagle, you would have aced the test and been hailed as an Eagle at once.

Iacocca lived the fixed mindset. Although he started out loving the car business and having breakthrough ideas, his need to prove his superiority started to dominate, eventually killing his enjoyment and stifling his creativity. As time went on and he became less and less responsive to challenges from competitors, he resorted to the key weapons of the fixed mindset—blame, excuses, and the stifling of critics and rivals.

Does ability automatically take you where you want to go?

Relationship expert David Wile says that choosing a partner is choosing a set of problems. There are no problem-free candidates. The trick is to acknowledge each other's limitations, and build from there.

What can I learn from this? How can I improve? How can I help my partner do this better?

as Billie Jean King tells us, the mark of a champion is the ability to win when things are not quite right—when you're not playing well and your emotions are not the right ones.

It might be easier to mobilize for action if I felt better, but it doesn't matter. The plan is the plan.

Gran parte de los que tienen mentalidad de crecimiento ni siquiera planean llegar a la cumbre; llegan a ella como resultado de hacer lo que aman. Es irónico: la cima es el lugar donde los que tienen mentalidad fija ansían estar, y sin embargo, es el lugar al que llegan –sin buscarlo– muchos de los que tienen mentalidad de crecimiento, simplemente como consecuencia del entusiasmo que sienten por lo que hacen.

To me the whole point of marriage is to encourage your partner's development and have them encourage yours.

It may feel as though the fixed mindset gave you your ambition, your edge, your individuality. Maybe you fear you'll become a bland cog in the wheel just like everyone else. Ordinary. But opening yourself up to growth makes you more yourself, not less.

Iacocca, Dunlap, Lay and Skilling, Case and Levin. They show what can happen when people with the fixed mindset are put in charge of companies. In each case, a brilliant man put his company in jeopardy because measuring himself and his legacy outweighed everything else.

Salerno-Sonnenberg was terrified of losing DeLay. She finally decided that trying and failing -- an honest failure -- was better than the course she had been on.

That's belief that partners have the potential for change should not be confused with the belief that the partner will change. The partner has to want to change, commit to change, and take concrete actions toward change.

In the growth mindset, it's almost inconceivable to want something badly, to think you have a chance to achieve it, and then do nothing about it. When it happens, the "I could have been" is heartbreaking, not comforting.

Esto es lo que eso significa: solo porque algunas personas puedan hacer bien algo sin necesidad de esforzarse, eso no significa que no lo puedan hacer otros con entrenamiento (y a veces, incluso mejor). Esto es muy importante, porque hay muchísima gente con mentalidad fija que cree que el rendimiento temprano de alguien ya te dice todo lo que hay que saber sobre su talento y su futuro.

understand the kind of mindset that could turn a failure into a gift.