Quotes from M. Scott Peck

One type of slave-owner does not discipline his slaves, gives them no structure, sets them no limits, provides them with no direction and does not make it clear who is the boss. What happens, of course, is that in due time his slaves stop working and begin moving into the mansion, raiding the liquor cabinet and breaking the furniture, and soon the slave-owner finds that he is the slave of his slaves, living

Our view of reality is like a map with which to negotiate the terrain of life. If the map is true and accurate, we will generally know where we are, and if we have decided where we want to go, we will generally know how to get there. If the map is false and inaccurate, we generally will be lost.

As Benjamin Franklin said, "Those things that hurt, instruct." It is for this reason that wise people learn not to dread but actually to welcome problems and actually to welcome the pain of problems.

Genuinely loving people are, by definition, growing people.

define love thus: The will to extend one's self for the purpose of nurturing one's own or another's spiritual growth.

Problems do not go away. They must be worked through or else they remain, forever a barrier to the growth and development of the spirit. The

Problems call forth our courage and our wisdom; indeed, they create our courage and our wisdom. It is only because of problems that we grow mentally and spiritually.

Until you value yourself, you won't value your time. Until you value your time, you will not do anything with it.

Vindecarea constituie rezultatul iubirii. Este o functie a iubirii. Oriunde exista iubire exista vindecare. Si oriunde nu exista iubire exista totusi putina - dar pretionasa - vindecare. In mod paradoxal, o psihologie a raului trebuie sa fie o psihologie prin care se manifesta iubirea. Trebuie sa fie plina de iubire de viata.

She never let me be me. She made me in her image. She made me, made me, made me. She never let any of me be me.

But is all this what God has done to humans or what humans have done to God?

Crescuti fara iubire, copiii ajung sa creada despre sine ca nu merita sa fie iubiti. Am putea spune ca aceasta este legea generala a dezvoltarii copiilor : ori de cate ori exista un deficit major in iubirea parentala, e foarte probabil ca respectivul copil sa raspunda la acest deficit presupunand ca el este cauza deficitului si dezvoltand, prin urmare, o imagine de sine negativa nerealista.

It is because they possess this courage, on the other hand, that many psychoanalytic patients, even at the outset of therapy and contrary to their stereotypical image, are people who are basically much stronger and healthier than average.

If we feel ourselves valuable, then we will feel our time to be valuable, and if we feel our time to be valuable, then we will want to use it well.

On the contrary, real love often occurs in a context in which the feeling of love is lacking, when we act lovingly despite the fact that we don't feel loving.

We cannot solve life's problems except by solving them.

The selective withholding of one's opinions must also be practiced from time to time in the world of business or politics if one is to be welcomed into the councils of power. If people were always to speak their minds on issues both great and small, they would be considered insubordinate by the average supervisor, and a threat to an organization by management.

love ''as the will to extend one's self for the purpose of nurturing one's own or another's spiritual growth.

Ne?manoma suprasti kito, nepadarius jam erdv?s savyje.

valuable—"I am a valuable person

The truth is that I want It, and the price I must pay is to ask the question again and again and again

I find the average quality of present parenting appallingly poor, I have every reason to believe it far superior to that of just a few generations back. A

The third tool of discipline or technique of dealing with the pain of problem-solving, which must continually be employed if our lives are to be healthy and our spirits are to grow, is dedication to the truth.

The feeling of love is the emotion that accompanies the experience of cathecting. Cathecting, it will be remembered, is the process by which an object becomes important to us. Once cathected, the object, commonly referred to as a 'love object,' is invested with our energy as if it were a part of ourselves, and this relationship between us and the invested object is called a cathexis.