Quotes from Tracy McMillan

One of the beautiful things about men is that they're very in the moment. That's why they don't want to have an argument about what happened six months ago.

People who find that they have a lot of drama in their relationships need to allow themselves to get 'bored'. At first, it will feel excruciating, and they may find themselves confronting a very real fear underneath all that drama: being truly close and therefore vulnerable to another human being.

Sometime between when the Summer of Love ended and the Summer of Sam began, America became a nation of cynics about love.

If you're not married, chances are you think a lot about you.

Ask anyone who has been in a love relationship for a while: nothing is perfect.

Lots of people feel more alive when theyre riding a roller-coaster relationship. But while this might be fun for a while, it cant possibly last.

Yes, I have 'failed' at marriage - a lot.

We have this false idea in our culture that if you haven't made it by 30, then you're never going to do anything interesting. My 40s have been the most incredible time of my life.

Rather than diminishing the idea of 'truly needing' a relationship - and trying to deny it, shame it, or talk ourselves out of it - why not just celebrate it? It's exactly what the world needs.

I was, for some reason, born knowing how to get married.

Caring - about people, about things, about life - is an act of maturity.

I've been standing at water coolers for the past thirty years talking to women about their love lives, and here's what I've learned: Eventually, most women I know want to be partnered.

I'm a blunt person, not mean-spirited. I come from a place of love, but I'm interested in being real.

When relationships don't work out, it doesn't mean you're a bad person, it just means you weren't meant to be together.

The thing is, relationships never work out... until they do. You learn a lot from relationships that don't work out.

A sure-fire way to know you're crazy is if more than one person has told you you'd be great on a reality show - and you agree with them.

If I had an office job, I'd probably be doing the exact same thing I'm doing on television: hanging out by the water cooler and talking to co-workers about their relationships.

Putting my words piece online was an important part of my plan to help women learn how to love themselves and have a better life.

Being in a relationship is a hard, painful slog at least once a week, maybe more often - especially if you have a lot of defenses to let down, or if your parents didn't know how to love you very well.

Is our desire for partnership just an evolutionary remainder, a Togetherness Delusion, where millions of women only think they need a relationship to be truly happy? Maybe. But you know what? That's fine with me.

All of us, consciously or unconsciously, set out to have the best possible love life. Valentine's Day simply shines a light on the degree to which that didn't - or hasn't yet - materialized.

I think of 'crazy' as what happens when we love the other person more than we love ourselves.

I think of masculine and feminine energy like two sides to a battery. There's a plus side and a minus side, and in order to make something turn on, you need to have opposites touching. It's the same in relationships.

Work is a different type of pursuit than relationships. You can't take the skills that you know that have gotten you into that great school or into that great job and apply them to your relationships.