Quotes from Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish

If someone really listens, acknowledges my emotional pain, and gives me the opportunity to talk more about it, I then "begin to feel less upset.

Living with real children can be humbling.

Steady denial of feelings can confuse and enrage kis. Also teaches them not to know what their feelings are--not to trust them.

When we give children advice or instant solutions, we deprive them of the experience that comes from wrestling with their own problems.

The more you try to push a child's unhappy feelings away, the more he becomes stuck in them. The more comfortable you can accept the bad feelings, the easier it is for kids to leg go of them.