Quotes from Brene Brown

Self-doubt undermines the process of finding our gifts and sharing them with the world. Moreover, if developing and sharing our gifts is how we honor spirit and connect with God, self-doubt is letting our fear undermine our faith.

Gottman's work on marriages, he was able to predict an outcome of divorce with 90 percent accuracy based on responses to a series of questions. His team screened for what he called the Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse—criticism, defensiveness, stonewalling, and contempt, with contempt being the most damning in a romantic partnership.

In the case of "schadenfreude," it simply means pleasure or joy derived from someone else's suffering or misfortune.

If you ask me, stopping to think, engaging in careful deliberation, and revising old thinking are rare and courageous actions. And they require dealing with a healthy dose of confusion. And that's uncomfortable.

El mérito es del hombre que está en el ruedo, con el rostro cubierto de polvo, sudor y sangre; del que lucha valientemente; del que yerra; del que fracasa una y otra vez,

The trick to staying out of resentment is maintaining better boundaries—blaming others less and holding myself more accountable for asking for what I need and want.

Why do we insist on dress-rehearsing tragedy in moments of deep joy? Because joy is the most vulnerable emotion we feel. And that's saying something, given that I study fear and shame.

The Shelter of Each Other: Rebuilding Our Families,

Living into our values means that we do more than profess our values, we practice them. We walk our talk—we are clear about what we believe and hold important, and we take care that our intentions, words, thoughts, and behaviors align with those beliefs.

define narcissism as the shame-based fear of being ordinary.

Culture is the way we do things around here.

When we're in shame, we're not fit for human consumption. And we're especially dangerous around people over whom we have some power.

Perfectionism is not the key to success.

Healthy striving is self-focused: How can I improve? Perfectionism is other-focused: What will people think? Perfectionism is a hustle.

I didn't realize it then, but looking back, those permission slips to myself were actually an attempt to belong to myself and to no one else.

I want to live in a world with braver, bolder leaders, and I want to be able to pass that kind of world on to my children.

If we want greater clarity in our purpose or deeper and more meaningful spiritual lives, vulnerability is the path.

In 2010, two years after that event, I wrote The Gifts of Imperfection, a book that introduced my research on the ten guideposts for wholeheartedness.

If integrate means "to make whole," then its opposite is to fracture, disown, disjoin, detach, unravel, or separate.

Get Inspired: I'm inspired by everyone who shares their work and opinions with the world. Courage is contagious. My friend Katherine Center says, "You have to be brave with your life so that others can be brave with theirs." 3

only about 10 percent of organizations have operationalized their values into teachable and observable behaviors

betrayal usually happens long before the other ones. I'm talking about the betrayal of disengagement. Of not caring. Of letting the connection go. Of not being willing to devote time and effort to the relationship.

In order to change, people need to become aware of their sensations and the way that their bodies interact with the world around them. Physical self-awareness is the first step in releasing the tyranny of the past." Van der Kolk goes on to explain that, "The mind needs to be reeducated to feel physical sensations, and the body needs to be helped to tolerate and enjoy the comforts of touch.

If you want to kick-start your shame resilience and story-claiming, start with these questions. Figuring out the answers can change your life: 1. Who do you become when you're backed into that shame corner? 2. How do you protect yourself? 3.