Quotes from Emily Giffin

Maybe that's what it all comes down to. Love, not as a surge of passion, but as a choice to commit to something, someone, no matter what obstacles or temptations stand in the way. And maybe making that choice, again and again, day in and day out, year after year, says more about love than never having a choice to make at all.

But I have learned that you make your own happiness, that part of going for what you want means losing something else. And when the stakes are high, the losses can be that much greater.

When you're in love, sometimes you have to swallow your pride, and sometimes you have to keep your pride. It's a balance. But when the relationship is right, you find the balance.

love is the sum of our choices, the strength of our commitments, the ties that bind us together.

Love and friendship. They are what make us who we are, and what can change us, if we let them.

This is why you should never, ever get your hopes up. This is why you should see the glass as half empty. So when the whole thing spills, you aren't as devastated.

Change can be good but its always tough to let go of the past

When you are in a relationship, you are aware that it might end. You might grow apart, find someone else, simply fall out of love. But a friendship isn't a zero-sum game, and as such, you assume that it will last forever, especially an old friendship. You take its permanence for grandted, whuch might be the very thing so dear about it.

But I am learning that perfection isn't what matters. In fact, it's the very thing that can destroy you if you let it.

My wants are simple: a job that I like and a guy whom I love.

Maybe the thing to do after you roll the dice-and lose-is simply pick them up and roll them again.

You can only control your own actions. Not other people's reactions.

It's like when someone dies, the initial stages of grief seem to be the worst. But in some ways, it's sadder as time goes by and you consider how much they've missed in your life. In the world.

It's the worst thing to fall in love with someone who will never stop disappointing you...

Songs and smells will bring you back to a moment in time more than anything else. It's amazing how much can be conjured with a few notes of a song or a solitary whiff of a room. A song you didn't even pay attention to at the time, a place that you didn't even know had a particular smell.

He nods, as if to acknowledge that endings are almost always a little sad, even when there is something to look forward to on the other side.

I think of how each person in a marriage owes it to the other to find individual happiness, even in a shared life. That this is the only way to grow together, instead of apart.

True love is supposed to make you into a better person-uplift you.

In days that follow, I discover that anger is easier to handle than grief.

Nothing is ever perfect. It is what you make of it.

I miss us too. I always have and I probably always will. Sometimes there are no happy endings. No matter what, I'll be losing something, someone. But maybe that's what it all comes down to. Love, not as a surge of passion, but as a choice to commit to something, someone, no matter what obstacles or temptations stand in the way. And maybe making that choice again and again, day in and day out, year after year,says more about love than never having a choice to make at all.

People generally didn't cheat in good relationships.

I miss us, too. I always have, and probably always will

It always takes two. For relationships to work, for them to break apart, for them to be fixed.