Quotes from Gordon Neufeld

It may be surprising to hear that parenting should be relatively easy. Getting our child to take our cues, follow directions, or respect our values should not require strain and struggle or coercion, nor even the extra leverage of rewards. If pressure tactics are required, something is amiss. Kirsten's mother and father had come to rely on force because, unawares, they had lost the power to parent.

Years of research and study show that a child was designed to be raised and educated at home because the most important element in a child's development towards maturity is his attachment to those who are responsible for him (a.k.a. parents)

The critical issue was that she was peer dependent, which, given her psychological immaturity, delivered a devastating blow to parenting.

Aukl?jimo paslaptis - ne tai, k? t?vai daro, o tai, k? jie reiškia savo vaikui.

less mature a person is, the more he will rely on this basic mode of attaching. Peer-oriented kids like Cynthia are preoccupied with being together, occupying the same space, hanging out, and staying in touch. When attachment is this primitive, the talking can be gibberish and nonsense. "My

Children do not automatically grant us the authority to parent them just because we are adults, or just because we love them or think we know what is good for them or have their best interests at heart.

We liberate children not by making them work for our love but by letting them rest in it.

Digital intimacy ruins the appetite for the real thing. So, when kids are gaming or even when spouses are gaming, they lose their appetite for genuine intimacy. Kids lose their appetite for getting their intimacy needs, their hunger for significance and attachment, with the family, and it erodes the relationship between them and their parents.

We have lost sight of nature's role in the whole process of maturation and growing up. Parents and nature are a team. And nature can't go on without the parental role of being able to foster individuality and viability unless the attachment needs are fully met.