Quotes from Byron Katie

We're all looking for love, in our confusion, until we find our way back to the realization that love is what we already are.

I am a lover of what is, not because I'm a spiritual person, but because it hurts when I argue with reality. We can know that reality is good just as it is, because when we argue with it, we experience tension and frustration. We don't feel natural or balanced. When we stop opposing reality, action becomes simple, fluid, kind, and fearless.

There is nothing that isn't true if you believe it; and nothing is true, believe it or not.

Nothing comes ahead of its time, and nothing has ever happened that didn't need to happen.

You're just suffering from the belief that there's something missing from your life. In reality, you always have what you need.

When I am perfectly clear, what is is what I want.

The world is your perception of it. Inside and outside always match - they're reflections of each other. The world is a mirror image of your mind.

I often say that if I had a prayer, it would be this: God, spare me from the desire for love, approval, or appreciation. Amen. I

If you think he's supposed to be different from what he is, you don't love him. In that moment you love who he's going to be when you're through manipulating him. He is a throwaway until he matches your image of him.

I don't know what's best for me or you or the world. I don't try to impose my will on you or on anyone else. I don't want to change you or improve you or convert you or help you or heal you. I just welcome things as they come and go. That's true love. The best way of leading people is to let them find their own way.

You're either attaching to your thoughts or inquiring. There's no other choice.

There's only one thing harder than accepting this, and that is not accepting it.

Thinking that people are supposed to do or be anything other than what they are is like saying that the tree over there should be the sky. I investigated that and found freedom.

Everyone is doing his job. No one is more valuable than another. The things in the world that we think are so terrible are actually great teachers. There's no mistake, and there's nothing lacking. We're always going to get what we need, not what we think we need. Then we come to see that what we need is not only what we have, it's what we want. Then we come to want only what is. That way we always succeed, whatever happens.

I've always been just me, but I was the last to know that it was all right.

Because if it hurts, it's your thinking that's hurting you.

God's will and your will are the same, whether you notice it or not. There's no mistake in the universe. It's not possible to have the concept "mistake" unless you're comparing what is with what isn't. Without the story in your mind, it's all perfect. No mistake.

The teacher you need is the person you're living with.

No one will ever understand you. Realizing this is freedom. No one will ever understand you—not once, not ever. Even at our most understanding, we can only understand our story of who you are. There's no understanding here except your own.

My experience is that the teachers we need most are the people we're living with now.

Inquiry doesn't have a motive. It doesn't teach a philosophy. It's just investigation.

We all do emotional gymnastics to be seen as wonderful or funny—just to get what we already have. And because we're doing the gymnastics, we don't see that we already have it.

And when people die, it's so wonderful that they never come back to tell you.

Whenever you mentally oppose what is, you're going to experience sadness and apparent separation. There's no sadness without a story. What is is. You are it.