Quotes from Warren Farrell PhD

Peter's dad, Joe, had prepared his son to know that a certain amount of hazing is the price of admission for acceptance, not rejection. The trading of wit-covered put-downs is boys and men training each other to handle criticism, unconsciously knowing that the ability to handle criticism is a prerequisite for success.

The boy crisis' primary cause is dad-deprived boys. Dad deprivation stems primarily from a lack of father involvement, and secondarily from devaluing what a father contributes when he is involved.

If your son is heterosexual, then he discovers the harder it is to find a job, the harder it is to find a woman.

Fatherhood was about your dad trading in the old glint in his eye-what he loved to do- for the new glint in his eye: his love for you.

Their successful husbands had learned that earning money led to love. Because it did. However, earning money didn't sustain love. As women were becoming more in touch with and sharing what was bothering them, their husbands were often burying their heads in the sand, hoping the bullets would miss. The more successful they were, the more they learned to repress their feelings, not express their feelings.

Prisons are the United States' men's centers (9 percent male). A staggering 85 percent of youths in prison grew up in fatherless homes. More precisely, prisons are centers for dad-deprived males- boys who never became men.

Aside from their physical health, this damages both our sons' psychological security, and our nation's global security: a third of young men are not fit for military service owing to obesity and other physical and mental problems.

Helping your son develop his sense of purpose requires beginning at a very different place than his dad-or granddad. His dad or granddad was told his sense of purpose. Your job is to help your son find his sense of purpose.

But it is crucial to let your son know that when unmarried couples live together when their child is born, by the child's third birthday, 40 percent of those children will have no regular contact with their dad for the next two years- between the ages of three and five.

For the first time in US history, more than half of children born to mothers under thirty were born outside marriage.

The full reality has many layers, which is why it took a book to unravel. But here's the first clue: the male-female pay gap is not a gap between men and women; it's a gap between moms and dads. Or more precisely, between men and women's work-life decisions when they become moms and dads.

Today, young men between twenty-five and thirty-one are 66 percent more likely than their female counterparts to be living with their parents.

The challenge for your son's grandpa was grandpa's job going nowhere; for your son is his job going elsewhere.

They confirmed that father absence is not just correlated with negative outcomes but actually causes negative outcomes.

The discipline of postponing gratification is the single most important discipline your son needs.

Every day, 150 workers die from hazardous working conditions. And 92 percent are male.