Quotes from Wendy Maltz

When it comes to your health, a time-and energy-consuming porn habit can really interfere with important self-care activities such as exercising, eating well, getting enough sleep, and even bathing and grooming. Sleep

In the end these things matter most: How well did you love? How fully did you live? How deeply did you learn to let go? —JACK KORNFIELD, BUDDHIST TEACHER

Some porn users tell us they feel too ashamed to go to church or express their spirituality in the ways that were once meaningful to them.

Finding time alone with porn and searching out porn that "does the trick" drains time, attention, and energy that might otherwise be spent in social activities or with an intimate partner. Simon,

As we've seen, serious problems with porn often have their roots in early exposure to porn in childhood. And a child's view of their parent can be negatively impacted if that parent's porn use is discovered or revealed.

Sexual healing and general recovery need to work together in the same way that music and lyrics work together to make a song: They alternate and blend together at different times. They are complementary, not isolated, experiences.

Sexual healing involves a great deal of unlearning. Along the way, we learn a new way to think, feel, and behave sexually. We need to create goals that respect the time it might take us to integrate smaller changes.

Failure is doing nothing about a problem that bothers us. If our efforts don't go as we hoped, we still learn and can take a new approach next time.