Quotes from Barbara Feldon

ACKNOWLEDGE YOUR RESPONSIBILITY FOR BANISHING NEGATIVE THOUGHTS.

be aware of negative messages and refuse to apply them to yourself.

Don't depend on a partner for your self-esteem. Never give away your value to someone else.

Stop dwelling on events and people who have disappointed you.

Cultivate positive, active people with enthusiastic natures who regard life as a gift whether one is partnered or single. Remember, attitudes are contagious.

Know your enemy as though you are planning for an invasion; determine when and where they are likely to attack and be ready to refute their messages.

Living on one's own is not always ideal - but then, neither is marriage. The mated format is charted territory. Those venturing into singlehood are the Lewis and Clarks of a pioneering lifestyle with few maps, unexpected ambushes, and an infinity of adventures. Therein lies its glory!

we believe there is something essential we don't have that's obtainable. what we long for doesn't exist, not anywhere. the ache is in the belief)

Your house is your larger body. It grows in the sun and sleeps in the stillness of the night; and it is not dreamless. —KAHLIL GIBRAN

Proust said we read to know ourselves; there are many more selves to know than can come to light in our ordinary lives. When we and the writer meet on the page our silent communion crosses centuries.

Try not to worry about what others will think—you alone are inside your soul and know what will bring you the greatest satisfaction and make you feel fully alive. Be acutely aware of the things you enjoy and have always wanted to do. Don't dismiss an interest because you think it's too late to start. Remember, Socrates wanted to learn to play the lyre three days before his execution!

Choose interests that are compatible with your time and energy constraints.

Living alone provides the guardrails of friends and inner autonomy as insurance against losing oneself in that first delirium of infatuation and prematurely surrendering to a relationship you might later regret.

An artist produces for the liberation of his soul If he is successful, in the end, he will draw a complete picture of himself. —SOMERSET MAUGHAM

In my obsession with intimacy I hadn't paid much attention to the rest of the world.

The loved one should be a delightful accompaniment to our already intact lives, not the main event.

our living space is our closest companion, always communicating, always reflecting our process of change)

I was beginning to notice the variety of human connection available instead of obsessing about what is missing.

Our surroundings compose a portrait of who we are, what we value and what we think of ourselves

Without us the writer's words would be meaningless, without the writer we would be stranded in half-lives.

Inside each book a warm-blooded human being is reaching out to us, and whether we are being entertained or enlightened we are never alone while reading.

When we live alone time and freedom are at the service of our muse in a way that artists in a relationship might envy.

many of us cower at the edge of that psychological boundary and abort our soul's adventure.

Whether it's that first mark with a brush on a canvas or pencil to paper, boldly make it and then let yourself free-fall. Art creates art.