Quotes from Richard Bandler

ONE OF THE MOST important aspects of what human beings do is build beliefs. Beliefs are what trap most people in their problems. Unless you believe you can get over something, get through something, or get to something, there is little likelihood you will be able to do it. Your beliefs refer to your sense of certainty on some of your thoughts.

As soon as we believe in something, we search for ways to prove it's true. What we are looking for here is to learn to doubt your limitations and be more certain of what is possible for you.

In order to change beliefs, we first need to learn a way of finding out the qualities of beliefs.

Take that feeling of certainty. Look at that picture in your mind and double it in size. Typically, when you do this, your feelings will grow stronger. When they do, notice where the feeling is in your body and which way it's moving. By doing this, you are beginning to pay attention to the submodalities of a strong belief.

Look at your problem in the same place that your belief was and the first thing to do is to look at it and say, I'm tired of this. Over the years, I've discovered that the moment people really change is when they simply decide that enough is enough.

The first thing we want to do is to take a look at what you want to get rid of and what you want to add. You want to get rid of your self-doubt and add more belief in yourself. You want to get rid of your fears and add more confidence. Whatever it is, when you think about your problem, you probably believed you were going to have it for the rest of your life.

When you look at the belief that it is going to be here for the rest of your life, I want you to do a few small things with it. Literally, push the picture off in the distance and move it over and pull it up into that place of uncertainty so, when you look at it and think, Am I gonna be stuck like this forever? You say, Ehhh, maybe yes, maybe no.

Nauki nigdy do??". Je?li masz wra?enie, ?e wiesz ju? wszystko, to jest oczywi?cie sygna?, ?e czego? nie wiesz.

In order to make it stick in any other position, it's important that you do this very, very fast. To make it so you can place this old, limiting belief inside your uncertainty, you have to take a hold of the image and do something with it. You have to push it all the way off so that it's twenty feet away, move it across your midline, and pull it up on the other side into the submodality qualities of uncertainty so that what was a strong belief becomes uncertainty.

Then you need to do the opposite. You need to take the image of what you want to believe, such as that you will be free from this problem and happy and well in the future, and push this image out twenty feet, move it over, and pull it up into the position and submodalities of your strong belief.

Most problems we face in life, as I have said already, happen in our minds. Furthermore, problems generally exist in our concept of the past and the future. The past and the future don't exist except in our minds.

If doing something once makes you have fear, doing it over and over and over again is only going to reinforce that fear.

Getting over things is often about helping people to learn how to get their minds to let go of things. It means that you put your problems into the past where they belong.

Najbardziej ogranicza nas wcale nie to, czego chcemy i czego nie mo?emy zrobi?. Ogranicza nas to, czego nigdy w ogóle nie braliÅ›my pod uwagÄ™".

THE FIRST THING TO put into your past and keep there are the bad suggestions others have shared with you.

When you want a guide to changing your behavior, you're looking for quick ways to make quick changes.

I elicit the submodalities of that just as we did in the inventory part of this book earlier. Stop now and think about something you no longer want to believe. Just like Myra, I want you to go through your list and find out first, where is the voice? Where is the picture?

When you find the difference, I want you to take the thing you no longer wish to believe and push it all the way off into the distance, then move it over and pop it up on the other side so that when you look at it you know it's a lie and you're angry about it.

Then it's time to build a new belief. What would you like to believe? If you build a belief that you, like every other human being, are entitled to be happy, and are entitled to make friends, that will be much more useful. You still have to have a reference structure. You have to look at yourself and see yourself the way you'd be if you had grown up with this useful belief.

When you can take on board new, positive suggestions and disbelieve the old, limiting suggestions, you will be ready to tackle the rest of your problems, especially your fears.

People think they are afraid of these things, but they are not. It's not the object. It's not the height that makes you afraid, it's your brain. We know this because other people can be at the same height and they don't get afraid. The question becomes: what is the person who feels fear doing inside his head and, even more important, what is the person who feels calm or confident in those situations doing inside his head?

After interviewing hundreds of people, I found out how people got over phobias. They all reached the point where they got fed up with being afraid.

If you run through all five and go back to the beginning and run through all five again and go back to the beginning and run through all five again really, really fast, what will happen is that you'll begin to feel fed up. There'll be a point where something inside you says, Enough is enough.

Run all the way to the end of the episode, float back down into the theatre, float into the movie, and then run it backward so everybody walks backward and talks backward, and throw in a little circus music so it's as ridiculous as it could be. Then, clear your mind for ten minutes and then go back and think of what you were afraid of. You will be amazed to discover that your fear has severely diminished if not disappeared entirely.