Quotes from Diana Abu-Jaber

Consider the difference between the first and third person in poetry [...] It's like the difference between looking at a person and looking through their eyes.

Love and prayer are intimately related.

Marry, don't marry,' Auntie Aya says as we unfold layers of dough to make an apple strudel. Just don't have your babies unless it's absolutely necessary .' How do I know if it's necessary?' She stops and stares ahead, her hands gloved in flour. 'Ask yourself, Do I want a baby or do I want to make a cake? The answer will come to you like bells ringing.' She flickers her fingers in the air by her ear. 'For me, almost always, the answer was cake .

tasting a piece of bread that someone bought is like looking at that person, but tasting a piece of bread that they baked is like looking out of their eyes.

Let the beauty we love be what we do. There are a hundred ways to kneel and kiss the ground

People look at you and forget about things.

The loneliness of the arab is a terrible thing; it is all consuming. It is already present like a little shadow under the heart when he lays his head on his mother's lap; it threatens to swallow him whole when he leaves his own country, even though he marries and travels and talks to friends twenty-four hours a day. That is the way Sirine suspects that Arabs feel everything - larger than life, feelings walking in the sky.

When Matussem Ramoud opened his eyes each morning, his wife would still not be there.

Consider the difference between the first and third person in poetry [...] It's like the difference between looking at a person and looking through their eyes.

Here is something you have to understand about stories: They point you in the right direction but they can't take you all the way there. Stories are crescent moons; they glimmer in the night sky, but they are most exquisite in their incomplete state. Because people crave the beauty of not-knowing, the excitement of suggestion, and the sweet tragedy of mystery.

His expression seems a sort of surrender: the loss of a thing that he has already lost before.

I'm in my junior year but I can't take it anymore. The beige walls, the scent of linoleum and used lockers, the shrill bell between classes. High school is sucking the life out of me.

cold, like swallowed tears.

Dad says that everyone invented baklava." It occurs to me now to wonder what that means. Aunt Aya rolls her eyes. "Your father? He is the worst of the worst. He thinks he cooks and eats Arabic food but these walnuts were not grown from Jordanian earth and this butter was not made from Jordanian lambs. He is eating the shadow of a memory. He cooks to remember but the more he eats, the more he forgets.

Love and prayer are intimately related.

Sometimes when she lies awake her body feels as finely made as a tuning fork. She can hear and smell the most delicate things, the smell and music of thought itself.

There's a time when things go out of tune. It's not all the time. It's not even a lot of the time. But it is some of the time. And then you have to deal with it all. Everything comes out wrong. You dream about goats and monkeys. People start to look at things wrong. Maybe you think the world looks squashed and flat. Maybe you get stones in the bulgar and you burn the smoked wheat.

You want to protect you children, don't you? You let them out of your body but you never let them all the way out.

She let herself stray past the stage of sleep and even past the stage of remembering, and she wanders into the stage of soul-searching. Sometimes when she lies awake her body feels as finely made as a tuning fork. She can hear and smell the most delicate things, the smell and music of thought itself.

The sky is white.

He tells about his Sudanese roommate at Georgetown who owned a prayer rug with a compass to find Mecca built right into it. "After a few weeks in America, he rolled it up and used the compass to go camping," Han says.

There's the man with his cart who sold me rolls sprinkled with thyme and sesame every morning and then saluted me like a soldier.

He believes that this man has looped a bit of the thread-leash through a corner of his soul.

a phantasm, a pink-palmed jinn, a ghost from one of the drowned cities.