Quotes from Willard F. Harley Jr.

An environment of carping and criticism is dangerous to your mental health, whereas those who support and encourage you bring out your true potential and spark your genius.

How are you feeling? What problems are you facing? How can I help you solve those problems? That's the kind of conversation that helps married couples stay in love with each other. Or it leads people into affairs when it's done outside of marriage and with someone of the opposite sex. It's intimate conversation.

Control is ultimately behind every angry outburst.

I've been able to classify most of their responses into ten emotional needs—admiration, affection, conversation, domestic support, family commitment, financial support, honesty and openness, physical attractiveness, recreational companionship, and sexual fulfillment.

Affection is the environment of the marriage, while sex is an event. Affection is a way of life, a canopy that covers and protects a marriage. It's a direct and convincing expression of care that gives the event of sex a more appropriate context. Most women need affection before sex means much to them.

Why should we make love?" If the husband is honest, he will answer with something to the effect that making love relieves his sexual craving. But the answer of most wives is very different. She will say that sex helps her feel closer to her husband. For her, it is all about intimacy and emotional bonding.

el afecto es el entorno del matrimonio, el sexo es el suceso especial.

Do you usually have a good feeling whenever you think about ______? Would you rather be with _______ than anyone else? Do you enjoy telling ______ your deepest feelings and most private experiences? Do you feel a "chemistry" between you and _______? Does _______ bring out the best in you?