Quotes from Jimmy Evans

If God gave you a strong personality it's for serving others not controlling them.

When you initiate romance in your marriage relationship, you communicate to your spouse that he or she is desirable to you.

Anything in marriage that is not willfully submitted to the ownership of the other person is held outside the union, producing legitimate jealousy.

God gives us prophecy to warn unbelievers and comfort believers.

Everyone at heaven's banquet table has utensils strapped to both of their hands too long to scoop food and return it to their own mouths. So, in heaven, every couple at the table joyfully serves each other. They simply tell each other what foods they desire to eat, and they are served. It is a beautiful picture of the pleasure and fulfillment that can occur when a servant spirit is present.

Like the utensils that are too long to get food and return it to our own mouths—we got married because we couldn't meet our own needs. We needed a partner to serve us and to fulfill us.

A blood moon is the same as a lunar eclipse when the moon turns red. Four consecutive blood moons are called a tetrad. Before 1949 the convergence of four consecutive blood moons on Jewish holy days hadn't occurred for 500 years, and it will not happen again for another 500 years.20 Over a very short time, God has been hanging an advertisement in the heavens and saying to us, "Look! I'm doing something very special here." Again, the Bible told us this would happen.

Prophecy gives us the assurance that all the Bible is true.

The second time there were four blood moons on Jewish holy days in successive years was in 1949 and 1950. Israel became a nation in one day on May 14, 1948 but was not established as a government until 1949. The third time it happened was in 1967 and 1968. The Jews took full control of the city of Jerusalem in 1967 after the Six Day War. The fourth and last time it happened was in 2014 and 2015. And in those years we also saw a total and a partial solar eclipse on Jewish holy days.

Men flourish in an atmosphere of praise, encouragement, and positive support. Conversely, criticism kills a man's spirit and is like emotional kryptonite to him.

When you make the decision to do what is right, regardless of how you feel, your life will be blessed and secure.

But the way in which a wife speaks to her husband will decide if she has any influence with him and whether or not she will motivate positive behavior in him.

Remember this: Even though it is natural for us as humans to respond in kind to how we are being treated—it is Christlike to respond with a spirit of grace and to treat people better than how they deserve. It is the secret to redeeming people and situations that are difficult and even destructive. Nowhere is this ethic more important than in our marriages.

Don't focus primarily on your spouse; focus on yourself. You cannot change his or her behavior, but you can change your own behavior with God's help.

Make up your mind that you are not going to sin in response to anything your spouse says or does. In that way, your behavior can be used by God to help your spouse respect and trust you.

Release the guilty person from your judgment. Do not keep rehearsing the offense in your mind. Let God be the Judge.

Until we bless those who have hurt us, we will not experience true emotional healing and freedom.

In review, here are the five Servant Rules: Serve what your spouse needs in spite of what you need, want, or understand. Enjoy serving your spouse and do it with a joyful attitude. Reject score keeping and do what you do with a spirit of grace and faith. Vigilantly protect the time and energy necessary to serve your spouse. Expect to be blessed and don't get discouraged and give up.

Obedience to the roles in Ephesians chapter five completely neutralizes our sin natures and causes us to return to the blessed state of unity and intimacy that God originally designed for marriage.

As it applies to marriage, this first step means remembering the joyous details of your happy and giving actions at the beginning when the relationship was so exciting and fulfilling. Remember how you honored the other person and were so sensitive in your speech? Remember how you did little things to impress them? Remember how both of you thought of each other all day and anticipated and prepared for your times together?

The ability to talk about sensitive areas of our lives with each other has greatly enhanced our marriage. We are able to relate to each other as best friends, to confess sin, or to reveal deep feelings without being accused or mistrusted.

If we try to enforce our thoughts and feelings on our spouses, we will damage the relationship. But if we trust the Holy Spirit to be the enforcer, we can stay positive and loving toward our spouses, knowing that God is at work.

True repentance includes three ingredients: (1) acknowledging the truth (revelation), (2) admitting you were wrong (confession), and (3) adjusting your direction (action).

That is the essence of women's sin natures in marriage. They often become stubbornly defiant and refuse to receive input from God or their husbands concerning issues in their lives and marriages.