Quotes from Tricia Goyer

She'd spent the rest of the day at his side, getting

Trauma-triggered anger usually manifests itself in one of three ways: fight, flight, or freeze.

When we sense danger, we will instinctively react with a fight, flight, or freeze response. Not a lot of thought goes into this response. The body just naturally does its thing.

Sometimes mad means sad. It can also mean anxious, afraid, overwhelmed, or any of a variety of emotions.

There are people from your community who love Him in a quiet, reverent way. There are others who are more bold and vocal about their faith. But I have a notion what makes Him feel special isn't just the fact that all those people think He's great. But rather when you or I are praying, and thinking about Him or singing to Him or thanking Him for his mountains and trees, that He takes joy in the intimacy of the moment. It's that personal connection, I bet, that brightens His day.

Kids who are oppositional or acting out in angry and aggressive ways often can't explain how they're feeling. They are overwhelmed, yet the only emotion they know how to communicate is anger.

Too often we parents make assumptions about our children's actions and motives. We lecture instead of listening. We always have an answer, instead of stopping to listen.2

We just think we are in the land of the living, and that we're going to die, but when we believe in God the opposite is true. We're in the land of the dying, and because of Jesus we're going to the land of the living. The land where there is no more pain, no more tears, and where we'll be with Christ for eternity.

I don't read books, I eat them—I take them in and they become a part of me.

Kids don't know how to handle frustration and disappointment, so they just get mad. And it doesn't help when we tell our kids to just calm down and have a better attitude.

Let your children know that if they have anything to tell you about something that has happened, you will always believe them. Fear that they won't be believed or uncertainty over what to say or how to talk about what's happening keeps many kids silent. Let your children know you will listen, care, and act.7

Many children also get angry when they are overstimulated because of sensory processing issues. These kids have trouble processing the information they receive through their senses from the world around them.

If your child is oversensitive, or undersensitive, to stimulation, things like 'scratchy' clothes and too much light or noise can make her uncomfortable, anxious, distracted, or overwhelmed. That can lead to meltdowns for no reason that's apparent to you or other caregivers."1 A