Quotes from Sue Patton Thoele

Worry is a habit that shatters our peace of mind and needlessly drains our energy, a form of mental masturbation without any benefits.

Placing our attention on providing consistent appreciation, approval, and applause to those we love not only focuses their energy on the good things about themselves but also teaches them to return the favor to us.

Considering the fact that we're all laced with flaws, idiosyncrasies, and vulnerabilities, wouldn't it be wise and kind to adopt an attitude of gentleness in relating to each other?

Pausing gives us the opportunity to arrive at an internal place from which we can choose wisely what needs to be done or said, and then do so gently.

As our inner language becomes self-loving and healthy, our feelings will surge ahead, eager to enjoy the journey.

To help instill positive energy, read only materials that feed your soul and uplift your thoughts.

Be with people who truly care for you and are positive, optimistic, and happy.

What fears are propelling me to work so compulsively? and, What is being sacrificed as I pursue this goal? As you answer, remember to do so in a loving and nonjudgmental way. You are doing the best you can, and are now in the process of making some new choices.

If your thinking isn't leading your life toward healthy attitudes and positive feelings, you can choose to change the station.

Your fatigue is telling you it's time to lighten the inner load.

Hiding our fears behind compulsive behavior of any kind severely limits our ability to be ourselves.

Being co-dependent means we consistently put others' needs, wants, and demands before our own—in other words, emotional dependence.

Remember, feelings are neither right nor wrong—they just are. When you can accept your feelings, you'll be able to risk being outwardly honest. If you criticize and judge yourself for your feelings, you'll close down, hide, and relate less honestly to both yourself and others.

We get off the guilt train by reminding ourselves that we are not responsible for other people's happiness.

If you have lost touch with your dreams and desires, a good way to retrieve them is to remember what you dreamed of doing and being as a kid.

The first and most basic step for any change or growth, no matter how small, is to know what we feel, how we think, and how we would like to alter our lives.