Quotes from Steven Farmer

Its the actions one produces that will lead them toward the unknown.

When One judges another, they unconsciously allow themselves to be judged.

With no expectations anything can become.

When One judges another, they unconsciously allow themselves to be judged.

Its the actions one produces that will lead them toward the unknown.

Your family was much more of a closed system. Your parents maintained few ties, if any, with the larger community. You did not bring friends over, nor did your parents share their home with their friends or neighbors. A sense of isolation pervaded your home. You felt no belonging or connection to anything larger than your own family.

In your family, your parents did not empathize with you. They expected a great deal more from you than you were capable of giving. At age seven, for example, you may have looked and acted quite mature, yet you still had your moments of whining and crying, you still needed considerable comfort and guidance. Your parents, not taking into account that this was to be expected, struck out aggressively against you because you were not acting according to their expectations.

Our parents did not know how to empathize with you because their parents did not empathize with them when they were children. If your mother was scolded as a little girl when she cried, she believed that is the proper way to treat a child who cries. If your father was whipped for disobeying, he undoubtedly came to believe that is the way to discipline a child.

The only problem is that you're still operating on a survival level. It's been hard to relax your need to be in control, to trust that you can protect and take care of yourself, or to let other people close to you, to be vulnerable with others. To do so would seem threatening at a very deep level. So you remain isolated, doing your best to "handle" your life. You stay alive, but you don't thrive.