Quotes from John M. Gottman

If you think your boss is stupid, remember: you wouldn't have a job if he was any smarter.

In a good relationship, people get angry, but in a very different way. The Marriage Masters see a problem a bit like a soccer ball. They kick it around. It's 'our' problem.

I liken an affair to the shattering of a Waterford crystal vase. You can glue it back together, but it will never be the same again.

I believe we're going to find that respect and affection are essential to all relationships working and contempt destroys them.

The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse predict an ailing marriage: Criticism, Defensiveness, Stonewalling and Contempt. The worst of these is contempt.

In order to get to a healthier and more productive place, we need to give up our fear of conflict, turmoil and resistance.