Quotes from Jan Spiller

When something unfortunate happens, they tend to respond with: "To me? It's happening to me?" They don't believe they are deserving of bad luck. One of the lessons they're learning is that "life" happens to everyone.

The best we can do for others is work on ourselves.

The idea is to be open to forces outside of themselves—whether people or nature—to redirect them in ways that make their tasks and their lives easier.

I don't know what 'ought' to be.

Wishes to Diffuse Fear-Triggering Anger: "I want all rage totally and easily lifted from me in a happy way" "I want all emotional violence totally lifted from me" "I want all frustration totally lifted from me" "I want the instinctive reaction of anger totally lifted from me.

Actually, when the dark within them arises, it's a good sign. It is the neglected part of themselves demanding attention. When they turn within and begin consciously loving themselves, noticing their own beauty and taking care of themselves, the demons melt away. Thus, Aries North Node people need to regularly take time to focus on themselves and see what they need to do to support themselves. Then they will be able to interact with others from a place of internal strength and harmony.

The ultimate resolution to the search for happiness is spiritual.

One resolution to the habitual pattern of withdrawal and surrender is to realize that their life doesn't get any better when they pull inward and give up.

true. On more than one occasion I have asked myself: "If I were ninety-five years old, on my deathbed, and looking back over my life, how would I wish I had used this body, this intelligence, and this system of energy? What did I want to do with this lifetime?" These moments make me aware of the importance of using time to consciously accomplish what I feel is valuable, and to experience those things that I am deeply curious about.

If my client had not distracted his wife from her moments of unhappiness so that he could stay calm, she would have had the opportunity to learn to handle her own moods.

In past lives these folks were trained to repress their feelings, instincts, sexual urges, and enjoyment of the physical senses. Abstinence and discipline were foremost, and deprivation of the joys of being human was rewarded with respect and promotion. In this incarnation they still tend to put up a wall between themselves and easy, earthy interaction with others. They are accustomed to postponing the pleasure of life, and often postponement leads to permanent denial.