Quotes from Richard Bromfield

Not one of us gets all of the understanding we want, and few get as much as we need.

Like a good harbor, the child therapist offers the besiegedc child physical shelter, tolerance of her defensive preoccupation, and a rare opportunity to let down her guard and rest. Just as a sinking hull must be righted and secured before more lasting repairs can be made, therapy can help a child enduringly heal only after she has been spared further abuse and neglect.

Be good to the child and he will come to you tomorrow. - Unknown

The more stuff a child gets in December, the less stuff the child will remember having gotten by January.

Giving children too much, today and tomorrow, can deprive them of more precious and profound gifts, such as patience, contentment, consideration, and other skills that help make for a rich, successful, and fulfilled existence.

The child who knows his parents have sturdy end stops will not have to push and test to find the limits and boundaries.

If you have no control over your child at home, and yet she behaves very well at school and in other people's homes, take heart. This is a common situation, and one that is better than many other possibilities.

numbers. According to a 2007 survey conducted by AOL and the family magazine Cookie, 94 percent of parents say their children are spoiled, up from the 80 percent measured by a 1991 Time and CNN poll. This percentage may sound high, but to me the question is, Who are these other

It doesn't matter what kinds of limits or consequences parents establish. All that matters is that parents back their words up with action and hold fast.

had failed to learn the value of money and how to work for it. And in a Center for a New American Dream survey, a vast majority of parents (87 percent) reported that the consumerism of modern society makes instilling good values in their children a much harder job. That the amount of

underscores the fact that parents' fears are well founded. The numbers don't lie, and there are too many of them to ignore or dismiss as random static or propaganda from any one interest group. The overindulgence that's epidemic

Nowhere is follow-through needed more than in your parenting.

A child who perpetually pesters her parents is still searching for the limits she needs to grow straight. Her demanding and disruptive behavior is, to a great degree, meant to test you, to find out what outrageous action will finally get you to react—constructively.

Following through and establishing a baseline of unspoiling takes more work than does maintaining it.

A child learns gratitude by not getting everything she wants. A child learns patience by waiting. A child learns generosity by sharing and giving. A child learns self-control by having to control herself. And above all, she learns contentment by not being trained to always need more and faster.

Commit to unspoiling your child, and your child will follow.

Whatever you do, do not back down.

Give your child a consequence that is meaningful to him or her.

Being an unspoiling parent is a lot of work. But it is a small price to pay for an unspoiled child.

Tantrums should become less frequent as you proceed through unspoiling. However, they might become more intense for a short while.

Today's parents tend to be uncomfortable with their authority.

It is never too late to start watching the examples that we set and change them when warranted.

Imagine yourself a teacher with your child in your classroom. Try emulating a teacher's clarity, directness, and expectations for an hour or so, and see what happens.

Practice telling your child your expectations and wishes in statements that declare rather than ask.