Quotes About Compassion

When I am angry I have a judgment and an unmet need.

I don't think you can have an authentic connection when one person is diagnosing the other.

Get very clear about the kind of world we would like and then start living that way.

When we listen for their feelings and needs, we no longer see people as monsters.

People heal from their pain when they have an authentic connection with another human being.

Never question the beauty of what you are saying because someone reacts with pain, judgment, criticism. It just means they have not heard you.

When people hear needs, it provokes compassion. When people hear diagnoses, it provokes defensiveness and attack.

Classifying and judging people promotes violence.

Empathy before education.

We use NVC to evaluate ourselves in ways that engender growth rather than self-hatred.

Four D's of Disconnection: 1. Diagnosis (judgment, analysis, criticism, comparison); 2. Denial of Responsibility; 3. Demand; 4. 'Deserve' oriented language.

Make your goal to attend to your underlying needs and to aim for a resolution so satisfying that everyone involved has their needs met also.

Empathize, rather than put your "but" in the face of an angry person.

Ask before offering advice or reassurance.

When we judge others we contribute to violence.

We can't win at somebody else's expense. We can only fully be satisfied when the other person's needs are fulfilled as well as our own.

Empathize with silence by listening for the feelings and needs behind it.

How often could things be remedied by a word. How often is it left unspoken.

Two things distinguish nonviolent actions from violent actions. First, you don't see an enemy and second, your intention is not to make the other side suffer.

When you need empathy, you cannot give empathy.

Remember that whatever anyone does, it is an effort to meet a need.

When we are angry, killing people is too superficial.

Understanding and connection can transcend conflict.

I continuously strive to touch lives.